Don't feel awkward LesandJackie. Anything you need to know just ask the forum. Everybody on here, at some point needed to ask a particular question. I remember asking many before my first trip. Now we are similar to the vast majority on here who re-book to return to TTR as soon as we get home from our last trip.
My wife booked both our trips even before we had gone on the first trip. All she needed to know is that toplessness was widely accepted and your sexuality didn't have to be hidden. (Ok open sex will be stopped but other playing opportunities are ok in common areas!) It was also nice being around other couples and women comfortable with there sexuality! You never know who you might meet and click with.
One cool lady told Stacia & I we were swayers one time and we were like... "Huh?" She ended up describing the lifestyle as a continuum, with the full-swap couples way over on the right side of the "graph" if you will, and the completely reserved, missionary-only and ONLY on the second Tuesday of the month when the children are either asleep or preferably gone on the left side of said graph. That being said, Swayers are those people who are in the middle somewhere, witht he tag "Swinger" somehow attaching as one gets farther to the right with the activities regularly enjoyed. A one-time 3-some, for example, does not a swinger make, but perhaps one-time participation in a group session would? I don't know. And, really... I don't care. Just a word.
I would think a "swayer" would be a monogamist couple that have discussed swinging or experimenting but have never followed thru. They are aware swingers are out there and if the perfect couple came along and made all the moves they would give it a try. I don't think many swayers ever make it into the swingers.I'm no expert but I think men create the swayer couples and the women create the swinging couples
So lets just say that whether you are Swinger or a Swayer just normal couples who want to live, Party and have a lot of fun without anyone getting hurt.
