Congratulations! Enjoy your trip to the holiday inn! Or at least that's what you tell them, shame about losing your camera... Oh well...
This is all true, but I would first try and find a way to help your family understand who you are and hope they accept it. I know people can live for years without seeing family. I have done that. I also know that their love and understanding can save your life.
We went to Temptation Cabo last Dec our 1st time. We only told my one sister and our best couple friends where we were going. Everyone else we told we were doing a "secret hotel" where you pay a price and don't know where you are staying until you get there. It worked but my sister did say to me that TTR is a swingers resort when we got back. I told her honestly if it was a swinger resort we couldn't tell who was and wasn't. And that was the truth for the most part. If you went to the hot tub at night it was a little more obvious. I would describe our stay as this: topless optional, fun, ADULT themed resort. And that is exactly why we went there. We are going to TTR Cancun in Dec this year. As a couple we have decided to tell our friends and family that we are staying at a different resort. We don't want to deal with all the questions and comments. We tell them to call our cell phones in case of emergency. (have to check them on vaca because we are business owners). We have once again chose TTR for the topless, fun, and awesome people, and adults only. I want to tell people: "It's not like were ax-murderers!) We like nakedness and partying..........................:icon_biggrin:
I nominate this thread for a Grammy! Talk about some great advice, and much, much better then anything you'd see on a talk show! Kudos to everyone helping this couple out! Ed
Well now Gramps has issued an ultimatum... If we go we are disowned (he seems to have family support) If we don't go we may be forgiven. My husband is ready to give in and quit. I have said I will go alone or with a single girlfriend...
My first year coming to TTR I ran into some cousins on Lingerie night. Thankfully I wasn't known as the dude with the sock yet but it was still a bit of an awkward moment. By the time I saw them for the family christmas party it was just a funny story. Like others have said, family is what you make it and the only power they have over you is the one you allow them to have. Have fun, enjoy, become repeaters and remember this is your guys lives to live not theirs.
Does Gramps have any financial control over you guys? If not, then he has no real power to control you. Once you allow someone to control, they will always try to control. TTR is not worth creating issues among you two.
Well, Its sad that family would disown you over this but if you give in now you have given up your right to choose for yourself.. so whats next..where you work, what restaurant you are aloud to eat at.. what people you are aloud to talk to. is TTR worth fighting for.. perhaps not, but..whats next, how far will you let someone else go in making decisions for you.. to me this is not even about going to TTR anymore..its principle, and what they are doing is not right...
DISOWN YOU?!?! Good grief. And they say we gays are dramatic. Jeesh! It really does come down to who owns YOUR body and YOUR relationship and who owns YOUR right to do with your body and your relationship as you wish (both physically and otherwise), provided it doesn't harm kids or animals and provided it's consensual. Our culture fears desire, sexuality, pleasure, eros, etc. We contain and limit it all (to "two people, opposite genitals, Saturday night, missionary position," etc) and we call anyone who doesn't deviant, perverted, queer, bad parents, sinners, sluts, etc. I call shenanigans! I call bullshit! I'm with the others: You give up this small little tiny vacation and you have to really ask yourself, "Who owns our thoughts and time and bodies?" and "Who is leading my life?" If you end up being cool with cancelling your vacay, great. That's your choice, and I'd never deign to tell you that makes you weak or bad. It is, after all, one little vacation. But it's also symbolic of so much more in your own sense of self, your own relationship, your family and our society. Whatever you do, I wish you luck! (SideNote: Maybe you should just damn well bring grandpa too. I bet he'd be the most partying one of all!)
