We tell people where we are going, if the want to judge, I probably don't want to be associated with them. As for family, what happened to love your family unconditionally?
You may not have been told this before but youare the protagonist of your own life story so it is best if you follow your heart on what makes you happy. Others are incapable of knowing what is best for you but they rarely refrain from sharing thier opinion as though you might consider it like gospel for what you should do. Since you are open to advice I encourage you to go, enjoy the experience, and consider it to be your 1st liberating step towards the life that you deserve.
Besides spewing their own opinions (and as everyone knows, opinions are like assholes, everybody has one) what are they doing to ruin your plans?
Should of told them you were going to the Rio thats beside TTR, would save people judging someplace thry know nothing about
You know... they (family) are probably upset more because of how this reflects on them. And really... your relationship is yours... not theirs. I find that attitude so ignorant. And its not like your family members never had a glimmer in their eye for someone else.
Okay, my only qualification here is watching too many episodes of Oprah and Dr. Phil...but often by asking a lot of questions, you can get someone to see the fault in their own logic. How about sitting Gramps down and saying, "You know, it really hurts us that you and the family are judging us and talking about us this way. What is it about our choice that upset you? Do you feel that we should let you have a say in our sex lives? What kind of sex life would you like us to have?" Sounds crazy, but I'm serious. Your relatives are obviously comfortable talking about your sex life behind your back, so shouldn't they be willing to talk about it with you?
My husband & I both know what it is like to be intimidated by what our families may think about our decisions. My dad is a pastor in a VERY conservative church & he(Ed) was raised Jehovahs Witness & his parents,brother & sister are still active in the church. We have been been to Desire twice & June will be our 3rd time back to TTR. We have also been in the "lifestyle" for years. Our families dont know about these things & we have talked many times about what we would do if they found out. His family while they would be very dissapointed & would not approve have an unconditional love mentality....mine however not so much. I know I would basically be disowned, but we are adults & it works for us & it is the decisions we have made for ourselves. If they find out & choose to not speak to us again while it would hurt very much.... so be it. We know we can't & shouldnt live our lives fearful of what others may think. We dont advertise it, but if it was found out we wouldnt deny it either. I think if this is something you & your husband want to do then go for it. I know it is hurtful dealing with the hurtful words & pressure from your loved ones (trust me ive been dealing with it my whole life) but ultimately you are an adult & it is YOUR life not theirs! Life is way to short & you dont want to look back & ever have regrets wishing you would have done or experienced something in life & didnt just because of what someone else "might think". They already know your wanting to come....the cats out of the bag....so I say go for it! I garauntee you wont regret it & I also garauntee you will have the time of your lives. And at least you know the Cancuncare family on here will always have your back & support you even if your real family doesnt!! :liebe011: Jess
Always remember that you can't chose your family but you can chose your friends, you can also chose to have your family be your friends or you can chose that your family is not your friends and only chose to see them at weddings and funerals, the choice is yours, the loss is theirs.
