When my husband and I went in January, my outfits were very well aligned to the theme nights each night, while my husband wore what he was comfortable wearing and what I thought he looked cute in for a night out dancing, drinking, and having fun. The whole experience worked very well for us with me being dressed for the theme nights and him in nice looking 'going out' street clothes in jeans, a nice button down shirt, and casual dress shoes. For the nights that worked for him to dress in theme outfits it was a lot of fun too. He wore simple black silk boxers and a short black silk robe for lingerie night, and a lighted halo with a white shirt and jeans on angles and devils night. At the end of the day, like so many others will share on this site, do what you want for yourselves and have fun doing it. As long as you are having fun and feel good doing it, nobody else is going to care (and if they do that is their issue). There have been many comments on this forum about exhibiting sexy confidence regardless of your situation, mostly pertaining to the ladies, but there is no reason the sexy confidence philosophy cannot extend to the men as well.