Like others have said we just let things happen naturally, dropping hints to see how the other couple reacts. If it goes past that we are very honest and open with the other couple about what we do and don't do. Just be sure the two of you have communicated openly about your own boundaries!
Omgeeeeee!!!! I want to start off by saying "all of you are soooooo awesome" you are all so open minded and I can't stop reading this thread. I have been following for a while and have finally gotten the nerve to post. I have never "swing...swang...swung." nor have I had the Desire to ever want to. But reading this thread has certainly given me a totally different perspective and insight into the lifestyle. I feel so much more knowledgeable about this. Me and my baby have a different relationship. We have been in love and soulmates for 17 yrs but we aren't married. We are best friends and SUPER happy with each other. This is the first time we have opened a dialect about how comfortable we are being pleased by others and it's all because of this thread. You all have given me the steps we needed to openly discuss the possibility of the "being with others." we have agreed on our comfort level and it feels great. We have taken your advice and will have baby steps. We have you all to thank for streghthening a 17 yr bond!!!!! CC is the best website for this and from the bottom of our hearts, we thank you Steve and the awesome ppl on this thread!!!
Great post Mrs. Grimes - my wife and I have been married for 10 years and these kind of threads are really great - I agree. We love each other and are fully committed, we certainly are not swingers, but..... that is not to say we haven't been to a place like temptations or in a friendly let loose atmosphere before and well.... what happens naturally and is fun, is well fun! We have never gone looking for anything or been to a lifestyle club or anything like that, but hey if we are having fun and the clothes come off and everything feels right and is fun, why cheat yourself of a fun experience, each time we have ended up laughing and feeling good afterwards and it has only added strength to our relationship and bond, as well as communication!
