Oh and also, works the other way round too - husband was asked for his swimshorts our first day there as part of the Miss Temptation competition games...he was reluctant, I gave him a gentle nudge and said "it's ok...nobody can see!" and he whipped them off. From what I can tell it really gave him confidence to participate in the fun, and we continued this frame of mind our entire trip. If he'd said 'no way' after I'd said that, I would have left it and not mentioned it again.
i agree with all of you. but to rolltide...rock it women. you deserve to be as sexy as you feel. i just hope when i am a little older i will finnaly feel confident in my own skin to show off everything my body is..i think the weastern civilization has put a huge emphasis on what beauty is, show them they wrong.
If her concern is others reactions, then you are right. Plenty of men, older and younger, appreciating a women of any age dressing and feeling sexy. You won't find a better place to let go and enjoy the experience. I think you'd have to look hard at TTR to find a person who doesn't applaud someone stepping outside their comfort zone and enjoying themselves. I think when women, especially, do that they give other women encouragement and support to let loose themselves. Have a great vacation and leave your worries at home
Jodi at 48 gets sneers all the time up here in the frozen north, what she loves about the looks & whispers from others turn into compliments and conversation at TTR
Strut her stuff, we think. Sexy to you bottom would be Stacia's response. She wears the string thongs for me as I think they are absolutely smoking hot on her. My $0.02.
I am going through breast reconstruction after having cancer and I am missing nipples. I did go topless a few times. No one ever commented or gawked or anything. I always go topless but this was my first time back since treatment. Next time hopefully I will have all parts back and baring it all.
I'm with funcpl27. TTR is the perfect place to push past your boundary...and as a result, the boundary definitely changes. In fact, I'd suggest pushing one new boundary every day you're there:icon_wink: I think it's important to always give something one shot, and if you really hate it you never have to do it again. I figured if I got home from TRr and hadn't gone topless at least for a few minutes, I'd regret it. So...I untied the top and waited for people to gasp in horror point and laugh (Anyone remember the Prom night scene in Carrie? That's what I feared!) And guess what? Nothing. Pleasant conversation with some other perfectly normal, wonderful people, some of whom also happened to be topless. And if I hadn't been comfortable, I could have put my top back on at any time. I hope you and your wife have a great time, and I promise there are going to be people there who think she's the hottest thing around! Laura
Stacia didn't read this thread, but I know her well enough to know that Laura and she are birds of a feather and the recommendation would be parallel. Here is a synonym for "Comfortable" ...... "in a rut" Just sayin'... While being in the same old place, doing the same old thing the same old way CAN be quite comfortable it is hardly stirring, is it. Doesn't get the juices flowing, the blood pounding, breath coming faster, all that excitement, adrenaline related stuff that makes life orth living. Here's another thing to consider for oneself, "familiaryty breeds contempt." It's horrible to think that way about your lifelong love/life/sex partner, but it's true. I ain't no dern psycholigimacall therapyist, but as a lawyer whose handled my share of divorces.... there's more than a kernel of truth to that statement. Keep it interesting, keep it spicy, keep changing things up! Take your top off! Shoot, go play Coed-Naked Tequila Volleyball and drag your man out there with you, or have him watch his woman from the side and get turned-on (excitement, adrenaline, etc.) on the side. Take a chance, life is way too short nnot to wring every last bit out of it. Whoa... where'd that rant come from. Sorry. Personal experience message there, methinks. Freudian.
It is all about confidence. If she is comfortable then she will feel great and look great. What about men making the effort? I love it when a guy where the borrat Mankini, if even if it is for 5 minutes. It put a smile on every woman face!:clappyinghappy:
While I fully agree that Temptation is a great place to push your boundaries, and trust me that envelope gets pushed farther every year, it's not all about pushing the envelope. Hence my comment about taking both and trying they both out. There is nothing worse than the 4 PM crowd at the sexy pool yelling "TAKE IT OFF" trying to get a lady to "push" her boundaries. (And yea I know that is not what you are saying but I'm making a point so bear with me.) I’ve actually seen other women around the pool put theirs back on during these sessions. It always seem to me that people will naturally push their boundaries when they feel comfortable or safe to do it. Not under peer or spouse pressure, but on their own schedule. By doing something when she is comfortable doing it means she feels safe and supported and is more likely to repeat the activity. So yes by all means push the envelope. Doing it in a place like Temptation where you feel safe and supported is always good. But do it at your pace, not someone else's. Jamie
