Set of RULES while at TTR for yourself/ partner?

Best thing to do is communicate beforehand, during and after. You won't know how you will really feel until its done right? So, trial and error lol...Because you may think you are ok with it until it happens..and vice versa..Although we have never been to Temptations in Cancun I am sure its pretty much like a frat party?? lol With alcohol, bikinis (and sometimes no bikinis? lol) I am sure there are things that are going to happen so no one should be shocked. The only thing that should not be tolerated is rude, ignorant people. If you as a couple ever feel uneasy, there should always be some kind of "signal" that you can give one another to let the other know that you need to chat first...I have seen too many couples go through issues from very minor to very drastic all because they wernt on the same page with each other. This is THE biggest mistake you can make..Have fun but always be polite and treat other peoples significant other with the respect you would want for your own and all should be fine You will be shocked at what you can learn about each other with just sitting down with them and talking

 

Wow!! Very very well said!! We have been in the lifestyle for about 6 yrs & the thing we tell people who are curious about it is that we cant stress enough how important communication is. In the last 6 yrs our relationship has gotten stronger then we ever could have imagined but have there been jealous times & times of miscommunication...definately! But as you stated that is why it is so important to talk, talk, & talk some more. Be respectful of each others feelings. TTR is a place to let your hair down & maybe try some things you wouldnt otherwise but you definately have to be on the same page or it can go downhill real fast!! the most important thing is just to have a good time which we believe is impossible not to at TTR!!

 

Not in the lifestyle...

Hi everyone,

Thank you for the reply.
Just wanted to clarify that we are not swingers... so when I said "rules" I did not mean anything to do with rules in terms of swinging or hooking up with other people in a sexual manner at all. Should have worded the thread better....

And I do like having a secret word/phrase I can tell my bf to get out of what could be uncomfortable situations for which a "no thank you" might not do it.
But I did not mean "secret word" in terms of swinging.

Just needed to throw that out there!!! :umbrella1:

 

After the 6th Tequila any rules you made are pretty much gone, so just go and enjoy the ,,,,

:musik026:

 

We chatted about potentially hazardous behaviour before we went, as we aren't swingers and haven't really done the adult-only holiday before. There was no way I wanted to make my husband feel uncomfortable whilst we were away, but I did want to join in with the harmless fun stuff like whipped cream, so I made sure that kind of stuff was ok before we got there. Had he said he wasn't comfortable with the idea, I would have respected his wishes though.

 

No rules. Been married for nineteen years so we are sure we broke them all any way. lol

 

for your first trip i think having some ground rules is probably a good idea as the environment there lends itself to situations that can at times be difficult for those whom have never been in these types of situations before........especially non swinger couples

the last thing you would want is to have a vacation filled with horrific memories. one of the main reasons we quit going to Temptation cancun was because of all the useless drama that inevitably happens when a couple is not on the same page.

trust me it aint pretty and having seen it first hand on numerous occasions and also knowing that most of these situations could have easily been resolved had the couple understood each other and the very minimum communicated their expectations and limits

with that said.....

on our first trip in 2005 we had a very stict list of things we would do/allow/tolerate............now the only rule we have is........IF ANYTHING DOES HAPPEN - ROB GETS A VIDEO

lol

as a couple in these type of environments - you learn to figure this things out ---------> when and if you communicate

so yes - if you feel as though you could have issues - for your own benefit and the sake of everyone else at the resort who does not want to see your thespian tendencies - definitely set some rules on your first trip

you and everyone else there will be glad you did

rob

 

If you break the rules, you must go see her. lol

 

wow great pic

i think i have seen that look before on a face or two.....

thank god the only weapons used was a walking stick, a tequila bottle and a busted condom

lol

rob

 

if there is rules i'm not going LOL