As the others have mentioned and I know this from my heart, it really is within you and your bride. Both of us are shy until we know you or we we have had a good dose of liquid courage. I have "talked" to people on this forum for years but have to admit, the ones I actually meet are the ones who come say hi to Tom or I. This stems from whatever is deeply rooted in my subconscious about never being good enough. I am still working on this and am finally getting to the point of not caring what others think. It's taken way more years than most but no matter what size, shape, age, etc....it's within me and I needed to fix it. With that said, I am the social one of the two of us and joined this forum before our first trip. I did not meet anyone from the forum that year at the resort. Even if I recognized them, I shied away from them. Each year, I came back and finally started to meet people from the forum. Obviously, there are large groups at different times of the year so we chose a time that is popular and at full capacity. Thank goodness for the outgoing individuals who came to us to say hello. I come back each year before trip and chat with the folks here. Sometimes we meet and many we have not met. I get what you are saying about appearing cliquish but all of the people I have met, known and partied with at TTR are the most non judge mental people I have ever known. Sure, you are going to run into stupid people once in awhile. We all have. I am glad you did not let it ruin it for you. I am happy to see that you booked again. Hang around the April chat groups and get to know some folks. Put yourself out there and most likely you will have friends approach you. Who knows, we are planning to go two or three times a year instead of one and looking at the best time of year besides the very best, Week 8 so maybe it will be April and I can practice my newfound confidence introducing myself to you!
Don't worry about other peoples problems, worry about what you're going to do next! Obviously you think she is hot, and she thinks your hot, that's all that matters! If you want to step into my shoes for a day feel free to. I'm the last person to say I'm perfect
She calls herself Big Momma. If I knew how to change it I would have already. She's "not so big Momma" these days.
I am by no means a small person. As a 6'2" plus size female I get noticed no matter where I go. At TTR it's truly about just accepting the fact that you are fabulous and letting that shine thru. I am headed down for my fifth trip this summer and have met some great people, even though I was quite worried at times about never speaking to anybody. If there is ever a place to put yourself out there TTR is it. There will always be haters and all I gotta say is "I would rather have a big body than a small mind" Have a blast! ~Shawna
Some guys like big girls. Some guys like little girls. Some guys like smart girls. Some guys like dumb girls. Some guys like big boobs. Some guy like no boobs. Some guys like big personalities. Some guys like wallflowers. Some guys like big asses. Some guys like no asses. Some guys like ALL the girls. Some guys like guys. My point is that no matter how you look or what size you are or what your personality is, some guys will find you hot and some won't. The fact that there was a couple young jerks isn't really a surprise and isn't really your problem. There were probably a wide variety of people there that thought they were jerks. Girls on the other hand are very different than guys. Girls all seem to have one particular body image that they find perfect. I'd like to explain that as well, but better men than me have tried for millennia to figure out girls and have had no luck. So yeah, I've got nothing for you on the girl side. But I do know that every girl there will be attractive to some guys and every girl there will be unattractive to other guys. But yeah, you can rest assured that no matter what, some guy thinks you're hot. Guys are easy.
Tony and Mary Here is what you need to do. Go one one of Steve's Boobs Cruises next time you guys go down, everyone who is shy and feel like they are over weight are always on these cruises, only the people who think their overly sexy stays at the resort all day doing nothing expectionally fun, then you meet a ton of people, literally. You make instant friends with anywhere from 25 to 60+ people! including Steve the owner of this website, whom is overweight too. The only 2 people on the cruise who are not overweight is Chino and Omar, they are the eye candy for the ladies and the main entertainment along side some other guest on the boat who know how to rock while on vacation. As you can see in our pictures, we're no slim chicken either. Everyone is different in sizes and shapes. Some are old, some young, some are gay and some are lesbians, and then there's some straights, and some are outright over the top people who back at home are real professional kinda people who you would never think are right beside you partying it up and having a blast. Doesn't matter what other people think, it matters what you think. Get yourselves some orange braclettes and wear them, it's universal here on CCC to help recognize people. You said it yourself, you saw some people from here but didn't approach them, I say go for it, your only limiting your vacation and possibly there's too because you didn't say hello. Our first time there, 1st mate came and said hello to us, our 2nd time there we meet J&J and I pulled them into our group and tried to make them feel welcome. It's a domino effect to say the least, before you know it, you are partying with a additional 50+ people. As far as being over weight, or having a gut as everyone says. Jodie and I call it our "FUPA". This is a rare privilege to have that many seek, it keeps us warm in the winter, it shades our private parts while sun tanning nude, you can lie about the size of your junk because you can't see it anymore, last time I saw mine it was 9" long, from Jodie's perspective, her ass to FUPA ratio grows about the same speed, it makes cuddling on the couch a perfect fit. There are too many benefits to list. So now you're wondering what the hell is a FUPA? For the male it means: Fat Upper Penis Area For the female it means: Fat Upper Pussy Area No go on vacation and enjoy what you have and stop being shy and I'd say keep your screen name, it's perfect. If you do want to change it though sometime down the road, just email Steve and he will do it for you.
I can relate. I am not small by any means what so ever. Last year was a very slow start for me. I did buy by first ever bikinis but took a lot to take off my over clothes and get into the pool. Then once I was in I hid in the water except to get out and pee. We did meet up with some awesome people we met on here first. They were fabulous and made my confidence go right up. Remember that you are your worse enemy. I wasn't there your last trip, but I would bet that those guys were not making fun but found you attractive. I thought people were staring and making fun of me too. Until my husband and some of the other awesome guys pointed out that these people weren't making fun when they were staring, they were checking me out! I didn't believe it, but then once I started being more confident in myself I started getting compliments from strangers and noticed the positive looks. You are absolutely beautiful!! Don't let it ruin your trip. Embrace your curves and your beauty and let loose! I hung out with some of the most gorgeous women with the best bodies during our trip a couple weeks ago. They never made me feel bad about myself, and neither did anyone else. I think we all just live it up together and are the sexiest damn group there! You have to have confidence to own it and have a great time. For meeting people use this board. I agree it can be intimidating, especially for someone who isn't a "regular" and "TTR vet". But everyone going is not a vet or regular. Check out the board with your roll call. Message people to say hi that will be there the same time as you. That will start those friendships and relationships before you even get there. That is what we did and we had a fabulous time. Went this year with the same group and again had a great time. Hope you have a wonderful trip!!! :clappyinghappy::daveandmo:
Hey guys there is some really good advice here and funny but it amazes me how many of us love to chat on here... we're all that !! but so many of us feel the same as your wife many of us are really shy, me included.. But have to say we have met the best group and I'm glad to see you guys will be there the same time as us.. this group is amazing for making people feel welcome and included, watch each others backs and there are so many of us now.. I guess the hardest part and this I know is walking up and saying hi we're Jeff&Deb on CC.. we've been very lucky and others have been great introducing us to other people. I'm vain and won't wear my glasses.. so when I can't see I squint and at my age squinting I look like a bitch and unapproachable, I'm over weight, talk to much, very blunt.. and found even still some of these people like me.. LOL Ok maybe they tolerate me cause my Jeff is a great guy....LOL Anyways I'm really glad you guys will be there while most of the April Addicts will be looking forward to meeting you both.. and I will try to keep a look out for you both and try to do for you what has been done for us.. introduced to the best people at TTR..
Guys I totally get it, in Feb 2009 I was 255 pounds at 36.6% body fat, I lost 70 and stepped on stage at 196.5. I am now 232 this year for Temptations, but im bigger and leaner than I have ever been, its a constant struggle. With that said, the self consciousness that comes with it never goes away, even though people say you look great, even though Temptations is more freeing than 99% of places. The beautiful part is a lot of us have been bigger before, and have come down to what we are now, sexy, confident and amazing people. Even now I feel self conscious taking my shirt off, wearing the square cuts etc etc, but I am going to rock the square cuts, I have worked too dam hard for what I have not to show it off a little bit. April is an amazing time to go, the April addicts are a great crew with some amazing people in there. Just start chatting on the board and you will find people to socialize with when you get there. People do recognize you from your avatar so make sure its recent. Also put up recent pictures on your page too! When you get there, work together, and communicate your asses off! If one of you is feeling off, tell other and explain why, then work through this stuff together. Its not easy, but it can be done. Good Luck.
