She has no reason to be embarrassed............plus i told her only a few ladies would be topless............ya right.......she'll have a great time ,i just wish it was soon.
Just be very reassuring and let her be in control. Let her know she never has to do anything she's not comfortable with, and that neither you nor anyone else is going to judge her--TTR is all about letting loose and having a good time, whatever that means to you. If Todd would have pushed me to go topless, I probably wouldn't have. But because he never even brought it up, I did it in my own good time. After a while, seeing so many other people not caring one way or another really grows on you. Also, show her some of the posts on here so she isn't surprised by anything once you get there. I was really nervous when we first booked, but once I saw that people are normal and nice and it's not some big meat market, it made me really excited to get there!
Grab a drink from the bar, get a feel for the lay of the land. Do whatever feels right. No need to make it more complicated than it has to be my friend!
My wife was as conservative as anyone but after 1 trip to what was then Blue Bay Getaway and now Temptation Resort, this will be our 10th trip and our 15th week spent at one of the Temptation Resorts. The resort carrys a great vibe from the majority of people being very friendly and non judgemental. Enjoy the games and eye candy or be part of the show. HAVE A GREAT TIME!!!!:lotsofmichaelfs:
Don't pressure her to do anything, and be sensitive to her feelings about any flirtatious behavior. Show her what you post on this forum site, and any private messages you get so she feels like she is part of everything. Reassure her that you can't wait to be with her there, that it is something you are doing together and not something you are wanting to do because of some deficit in the relationship. I'm not suggesting that you are trying to be swingers or anything, but looking at websites that talk about how couples make that decision together, and important things to talk about, would be helpful resources in understanding all the feelings that need to be dealt with when someone is exploring (and a little unsure about) expanding sexual boundaries. You don't want her to feel like she is going there because it is what you want - that will possibly blow up on you later, in a bad way. Reassure her about how sexy she is and how much you love her. All will be fine if she feels secure in that way - and give her no pressure to do anything. On our Boobs Cruise, not everyone had their top off - it will mess with her mind if she feels pressured to do that and isn't mentally ready for it. Best of luck - and I hope you have a wonderful time on your trip (and before and after too - !!)
On my virgin Cancun TTR trip last December, I participated in all the theme nights that the Chaos Crew scheduled in addition to the resort theme nights. It's a great way to develop comraderie with the group, and there's something about putting on a costume that makes people less shy and inhibited than they might normally be.
Thanks for the positive response..........but the nerves are calming,she just stopped by my work to show me her black and white outfits and a new bikini and she just mentioned a cool website cancuncare.com ..............imagine that.:lotsofmichaelfs:
No worries Funbags. It only takes a few minutes to realize that there are all shapes and sizes, backgrounds, and comfort levels. We've hung out with people that don't do the topless thing and people that do everything else. Kris and I will be there while you are with a bunch of nice people so don't sweat it.
One of the shy girls in our group was concerned about going, I told her that about 50% of the girls were topless, She was laughing when she told me I had the decimal on the wrong place in my calculations. You will have a good time.
