I Keep Seeing Conflicting Explanations And Characterizations. Could Y'all Please Help Me Out?

Our general experience with lifestyle people are that they ask. Regardless of your answer they’ll still be cool and want to party.

 

You can make it very clear that you are not interested. People at temptations are there for a party. If your party means just you and your significant other then that’s your party. Some people’s party is different. As a non swinger going to temptations I did the same thing showed off my wife asked her to wear the naughtiest outfits and I did the same. When people hit on you same as you would do at a bar you say oh no thank you I’m flattered but not interested. 95% of the time the person that just propositioned you will say awesome. Ask you if you are having fun and ask you if you want to do a shot. There was never a time where I felt like I couldn’t hold my own and felt like I was put into a situation I didn’t want to be in. TIP #1 don’t wear anything pineapple related. You might send wrong vibes. TIP #2 just go and don’t worry about it. It’s the most fun you will have and you will meet great people. Some of whom you might stay in contact with for the rest of your life. We met an amazing group and now we go back every year with them. Put your hesitations aside you are a sexy couple and you deserve to go to a place that allows you to be as wild or mild you feel comfortable with. TIP #3 the more wild the more people you will meet and good times you will have.

 

We've been to TTR 39 times, and while not 26, my lady is a beautiful face, smoking hot killer bod type of girl too... All you might have to deal with is some one asking a simple question, like "Are you guys in LS" or "Do you swing," and when you just say no like we do, they drop it and move on if they're "hunting," but if just making conversation they'll still drop it if isn't the other person's or couple's thing.

Or, you can just walk away. Simple. People "drama it up" all the time. Don't miss out on an incredible experience. Go, find some cool people going the same time as you and hang out witht hem so there's a pack defense mindset if you feel like you need that.

 

Hey Aaron, I’ll be a first timer this December and I really appreciate your concern about and protection of your wife. My bf Mike has been to temptations (with his ex) but I haven’t, and I’m also concerned about how forward people will be. I’ve definitely been in the ‘feeling violated to the point of tears’ camp, so I’m wondering; How was your experience? Are you glad you went? Would you go again? Did any of your concerns come to fruition?

 

I have been about 5 times now. I am not a woman so I can only report what a saw, but I did not witness or hear of any problematic experiences at all. On every trip I found everyone fun but amazingly respectful. Were they forward? Absolutely but in a transparent and respectful way. No always meant no and was never a problem..

 

Thanks! We really did enjoy it, we didn't have anything like I feared happen, people made it clear they were interested, but just kind of in a friendly, conversational way, nobody tried anything before a fairly long, friendly conversation to see where we were at. The reason we were worried was because of our previous experience at the other resort, and my wife really likes dressing extremely sexy and revealing, despite being extremely shy (some of her outfits we didn't even post on here lol). I obviously like it too, but despite that, and the fact that she enjoys doing things in public, we only wanted to do things with each other. we didn't want any of that to be seen as an invitation, and have someone take any liberties.

We quickly felt completely at ease though. It was perfect, lots of couples came up and talked to us, many of them ended up being LS couples, but none of them were even the slightest bit pushy. Some of them would politely go on about their day when they found out we werent interested, we actually hung out with a couple groups of couples, some of which were LS and some weren't, but these couples looked out for us and each other, and they were very protective over Becca which helped put her at ease, and me as well. We kept in contact with these couples, and we hope to go back again with them soon actually lol. We consider them to be good friends of ours now.

Overall, I would have to say that this trip was one of the best things that ever happened to our marriage. Ironically, becca's shyness evaporated since she was just one of many being sexy there. I got to see a side of her come out I've only seen glimpses of here and there. We're both stronger as a couple, and even seeing each other turn down advances from others helped to strengthen our trust in each other. We both see why people keep coming back to this place, and we will too, we're already planning on going again. If you go, you won't be disappointed, there's some random awkward single guys wandering around, but they never bothered us that much because we stayed in our new friend group of couples. They didnt seem very threatening tbough, never got a predator vibe or anything. I dont know if they would've been more of an issue if we hadn't been with our friends, but just to be safe, make friends while you're there, everyone was so friendly there, you could just make friends with anyone.

So yeah, we would both say definitely go, and you'll have a great time! We were so sad to have to leave lol. All of our fears were relieved, and we would recommend this place to anyone

 

Amazing! Thank you Aaron.

I see a few similarities between your wife and I, and in my relationship with my bf, as far as our comfort level with others and our past experiences.
I to am a bit shy, but also body insecure (which is unlikely for you two!).

We ended up booking for 12/2-12/6.
There’s a lot to navigate with care and ethics, and Mike and I are already deepening in our closeness and conversations just since having booked.

Like you, Mike is protective aware and sensitive to his woman! I feel lucky and blessed to be having such real and loving conversations and already getting support from strangers!

Maybe we will see you guys in the future!

 

Great explanation! Headed there for our 14th time and I still remember how I felt going to “Blue Bay Getaway” the first time.