Chris here, always feel free to hug me As an introvert, I usually don't have much to say, unless you hit one of the few things I do have something to say about, then I won't shut up
So glad u posted this. I'm a hugger, toucher, social butterfly. My husband, though not socially awkward I would definitely say is an introvert, and often also perceived as an arrogant asshole. He's not a toucher, or hugger, or any of that, except with me of course ;-).... Our first visit to TTR we seemed to disagree on the appropriateness of me hugging other men. I felt it was appropriate, he felt it was not. He said it was because he could see that the men would start to Desire me and begin to watch me after, and that's how men are. So I shouldn't confuse them. I agreed to respect his assessment of the situation since I never understand that "man stuff"., and going forward I kept my hugging to women only. I'd love to hear others thoughts on this?
I love this post, I could have written most of it. I'm not socially awkward but I'm English and touching wasn't part of my growing up. I always tell people we English consider any form of touch foreplay so I'm careful lol In the last few years I've embraced (see what I did there?) hugging and people are right, it makes you feel good. Plus a pair of boobs pressed against you is always a good thing
Nice post. Glad to see a new topic I am not really socially awkward, but sometimes there is that strange tension right at first when someone isn't sure if you should just say hi, shake hands, or hug. I see this often with people that are friends of fiends (I have known for years but never hang with them myself), or people at the bar that I have drank with a bunch of times, but we don't like call or text one another). I normally just cut that tension by just going for the hug, but I don't half ass it. I open wide and proud and say something stupid like "Oh your getting one of these from the big guy". That usually makes it way more funny, less awkward, and I just come off looking like a goof. Then people seem to know where I stand with them, we should be completely comfortable with one another, and good times are about to be had. As far as with TTR, I think there is a bit more to consider when the girls are topless. I think that is the woman's right if she wants to rub her chest on me. It isn't my call, and I am not going to be the person to initiate. What if the hubs doesn't want me intruding? So I let her make the call, and try not to really think about it. My sister-n-law and I are good friends, when she comes over she basically jumps up off the ground and wraps her legs around me. I have no idea what her boyfriend or our families think, and frankly I don't give a shit. She's hot. So that can be awkward for them, because it isn't for us Oh and if your getting off a Boobs Cruise I am not on...everyone I know getting a hug! That's a fact. I think Guido was the first one that got one in May, and I never even met him before. A hug is the least thing to think about after whatever just happened on that boat.
Interesting topic, hits home. I (him) am not a germaphobe, but I am a spaceaphobe. I made up the word myself! It is a bit of a conundrum in that I am friendly, and libel to be the guy not afraid to take his swim trunks off to win a game at the sexy pool if needed. But I like my space bubble. My family jokes about it and I am well known for giving a fist pump or maybe a side hug. But things like hugs, or back massages, or gently stroking a neck or arm, etc. literally are like nails on a chalkboard to me. Interestingly I am not afraid of being confined. Have gone extreme cave exploring in areas where you literally have to contort your body to get through areas, and other things like that. Most people who know me causally don't understand just how much I am bothered by outsiders giving me physical contact. I tend to hide it. Mostly it's not an issue because I don't initiate it ever. Being someone who does like my space, I also have become keen to watching people who do/don't, and quite frankly there are subtle hints people give off that let you know if they are the huggy type or not.
I'm a hugger and a toucher! Some are, some aren't, and sometimes I wish I wasn't! I've hugged a few people, fully dressed, that made me want to go shower afterwards, but when the urge to hug overcomes me, it just happens!!! I say relax and go with the flow while at TTR, a good place to confront your anxieties about hugging!
What an awesome and interesting conversation!! I (Barbie) am definately a hugger!! Speaking for Tom...he says he is shy, BUT he is a hugger too!! Huggs make people Happy!! One thing I would like to add that I have learned about topless and/or even nude resorts is that People are So Friendly and So Happy... No Judging being done... I don't even think people think of you as being Topless or Nude! I say Hugg On People!!!
