How to talk wife in 2nd trip this year? HELP!!!

I don't know you so this could be WAY off base... But having lived in Key West for years and taken visiting friends to different (wild, fun) places there, I quickly learned (1) that sometimes people who claim to like to party hard really don't like to party the way I do (i.e., with nudity and sexy fun) and (2) that sometimes after a fun vacay (like TTR) guilt or shame sets in.

I know this sounds all psychological and stuff but seriously -- Maybe your wife wasn't as in to TTR as you thought? Or maybe after you all got back to "real life" she had a little shame-reaction ("oh my god, I can't believe I did that! I'm a mother! What if someone finds out!?)? Or maybe she feels that YOU enjoyed it a little "too" much? Again, I don't know you so this could be WAY off base but it sounds like a great time to sit down and relax and talk about your TTR experience.

Crossing my fingers for ya that the "real" issue is just that she wants to go longer next time!

 

Luckily for the wife and I, any guilt and shame are forgotten after our next drink!

 

Is the issue finding a sitter or guilt? That can make a difference.

If it's guilt, here's what's worked on me: Remember, the best gift parents can give their children is a happy, secure marriage. Couple time helps you nurture your relationship. Children grow up to live the lives their parents have modeled. If you model a happy relationship that balances family time with couple time, you increase the chances your kids will have this in their adult lives!

If it's finding sitters...ugh. Nightmare.

 

We have three small children too and I'm hoping to convince my husband to go in the fall as well as in early 2013 - we both love it, just gotta gather up the funds and arrange for the grandparents to babysit (after convincing him that it's a good idea)!!!

 

Speaking from a mom perspective it very easily could be that she doesn't feel comfortable putting her wants/needs before the kids.

 

Okay, I don't have kids & don't want kids, but I 100% agree with this -- based on my own parents! Man, some of my friends act like their kids are THE center of the universe and forget that they are still husband/wife, man/woman, partners, whatever - and need to relate to each other THAT way too, not just as 'parents'. And that time together as partners, as adults, as man/woman is VITAL whether it's at TTR or wherever to be intimate, to have sex, to reconnect, to bond. No kid is going to be delinquent because their parents went on vacation or to TTR. Could you perhaps just lock the kids in the house with some food and a Nintendo and call it good? (j/k!)

 

Angela, the kids will survive. You need you time just as much so book that trip. On another note, loved hanging out with the 2 of you, it was great to meet you, we will be back next April, maybe a few days later in the month.

 

After the first time at TTR we went 3 times within a year! A week away does WONDERS to strengthen a relationship. It is just as important for husband and wife to have ALONE quality time as it is to be with the kids 24/7. It helps keeps the flame alive and the couple connected. How many people get divorced after the kids leave for college? SERIOUSLY, there has been a lot in our area. When couples get caught up in the day to day routine of the kids they (not knowingly) lose intimacy and the connection that made them fall in love in the first place. I can honestly say as "THE WIFE" that our relationship has grown tremendously since we've started going to TTR. We just got back on the 13th? It was our fifth trip and it was our best ever! Sorry we didn't get to meet you! We already can't wait to go back!:flagcanada:

 

Couldn't agree more!

 

We do not know. We just booked our fourth trip in 12 months