Here's what I did our first trip. I let her pack everything she wanted to wear. In the meantime, I went shopping for everything I wanted to see her wear, (Think much more skimpy and sheer) and also packed a bag for her. When we arrived at the resort, she wore whatever she wanted and I never requested or pushed her into wearing anything that I had packed, but the funny thing is that by the end of the trip, the bag she had packed for herself was still about half unworn, while the bag that I had packed was not only all worn, but several items were worn more than once. Women tend to be much more self critical and judgmental of themselves than we guys are. There isn't anyway that I know of to help her overcome her pre-vacation jitters about her sexy wear until you actually get to the resort and she sees with her own eyes what all the ladies are wearing and feels the sexy vibe of the resort. Don't worry, this won't be your last trip to TTR, it will only be your first!!
We went to our first adult resort last year (Hedonism) and my wife was the same way. We assume TTR will have a similar vibe (cool, non judgmental people who are there to have a good time). We had a few drinks on the plane so we didn't show up stone cold sober. Within 15 minutes of being in the pool the nervousness was gone. Once she gets there and experiences the atmosphere she will be fine. Amy will be wearing nothing but skimpy suits and dresses the entire trip. Look for us at the pool when you get there.
She will find her own comfort zone. She may come out to patyo's at night and feel over dressed the first or second night and then by the end of your vacation you'll find her in skimpier wear. If Lingerie night is the first, she'll be prepped for the week. There is always gonna be someone wearing way less or slutier clothes.. Monique
All those first trip worries are common. Best advice is to bring all the skimpy and sexy outfits you want, plus some on the more conservative side. Once you are there and can judge the vibe, you can adjust your attire to fit your comfort level. We made our first trip last year...and it's true what they say...nobody knows you, and nobody gives a ****. We had a blast and found it to be very relaxed and comfortable.
I have the same worries ...too many years of knowing the Texas gossips are talking behind my back I seem to have a two sided wardrobe going right now with my normal summer attire battling to stay in the suitcase. Luckily the skimpier stuff takes up very little room lol.
My wife is very shy and was a little worried. We were there for 12 days in January and had such a great time we went back for our 20th anniversary the end of sept.
I have discovered that just a little bit of alcohol tends to loosen up a lot of things Your wife inhibitions, as well as the straps on those tiny bikinis she is buying. So loose, in fact, that the darn things have a tendency to fall right off.
Please, please, please tell her not to worry it's true what others have said about the policy of no one knows you no one gives a shit. And as stated just when you think someone has gone and wore the skimpiest outfit you've ever seen at TTR someone else comes out in one skimpier. And it truly is up to her comfort level no one is going to say you shouldn't wear this or you ought to wear this, but I'm sure once she's been there for a day or two she'll be in those skimpy bikinis and theme wear and saying to you WTF was I so worried about.
:sunny::flagcanada:Thanks to everyone for there information and emotional support, this is are first visit also. We look forward on making new friends and having fun and not giving a sh**. 26 more sleeps
