Hey Everyone, So the missus and I have been to the resort twice now and are thinking about bringing some friends along for another trip. We've told tales of the shenanigans that happen at the resort and several friends have expressed interest at coming along for a future trip. My concern though, is that I feel like the missus and I can't fully enjoy ourselves at the resort when bringing along friends that we interact with on an ongoing basis. This may be the case for the friends as well after they overcome the shellshock of getting to TTR and experiencing the environment. While all of the friends we'd invite are fairly open mind and I don't think there would be judgement per say, the way in which we act at TTR and the way we act in our everyday lives is...different. For example: I don't think anyone would feel comfortable being topless in front of each other since that is a boundary that has definitely never been crossed before and would potentially produce awkwardness and maybe even jealousy. I think that everyone potentially going would enjoy themselves, but it's always different to hear about stories and express about how you would act versus the actual reality of being in the situation. For those who have gone to the resort with friends and even family that you know, how did it turn out? Did you feel as if you had to act differently than you would otherwise on a trip to TTR? Did the trip sour any friendships or create any awkwardness/jealousy? What advice would you give to help limit these concerns and help us maximize our enjoyment on the trip. For clarity: -Neither myself, the missus, or any of the potential friends are in the lifestyle (at least as far as I'm aware). I don't think there is any potential for any misunderstandings or disagreements in the group at least in regards to this. -The group would consist of potentially 3-6 couples. This wouldn't be a bachelor-type trip. -We're all in the 20s-30s age range which leads to a bit more conservative viewpoints on modesty in comparison. (ex: not feeling comfortable in their skin to go topless and moreso in front of others). -The primary motivator for everyone to go would be to enjoy the spring break-like environment and enjoy the craziness and fun that is TTR.
Following....we are wondering the same. We have friends/neighbors that we think would have a blast at TTR, so curious about others experiences with same.
Don't do it. We never bring anyone that would cause us to be less inhibited than we would be otherwise. That's why we like being there! I loved the mantra at the old Temptation "...where nobody knows you and nobody gives a shit!" We have had friends in the same situation. We tell them to go by themselves and then decide if they want to bring friends.
I would agree with the advice that has been given. The best part about TTR is letting yourself go and exploring your limits with your spouse. You invest a lot of $$$ for your vacation, when you start adding potential unknowns that could damper that experience most times they are regretted. We have made great friends that we have met there and time our trips together! Remember, this is your time to keep that flame burning, you must take all that into consideration.
None of our friends have come with us, but we have invited a few. Any friends we invite we do so after telling them exactly what we will be like as well as what the resort will be like. We go to have an amazing time and it's not worth bringing anyone that might change that for us.
First trip back in 2012 was with family (sister in law, her partner and 2 of their friends). They didn't research enough and did not have a good time. We were frowned upon and judged for having a good time, and if you know us, you know we're actually pretty tame when it comes to TTR things! Lesson learnt, we don't bring family again lol. Last year we brought friends (our own friends) for the first time and they had a great trip. No awkwardness that I was aware of. I had my top off, and when friend saw me, she loosened up a lot and took her own off. Me having mine off eased her mind on that issue. There is obviously a learning curve with TTR and it does take a couple days for anyone new to acclimatise and understand the TTR attitude. Didn't feel awkward at all though! Key here is only taking people you know will be ok with the vaguely sexy atmosphere 24/7.
We took or rather some lifestyle friends joined us, we we're at the old TTR for 2 weeks, they joined us in the middle half. We thought they'd have a blast, no issues with lifestyle, topless was a norm, so certainly no issues there BUT to our surprise she sort of freecked out at the competition of some or all of the glamorous ladies. Some how saw it as real competition, we've never felt like that, she became a real "pain" it soured the days they we're with us. Certainly arrange to meet friends you've established at TTR.. Be Very, Very Cautious on any "home" friends you invite... just our 3 pennies worth
Thank you everyone for the advice. We’re taking it to heart and not bringing anyone we know that could stop us from fully enjoying the trip. friends we met at the resort though is a different story. We’re hoping to meet up with friends from TTR we know and we’ll just have to meet more along the way! We’re leaning towards Halloween for the next trip and Dia de los Muertos. thank you all for your replies! Hope to meet up with some of you all in the sexy pool!
We have told home friends time and time again to join...but say "be prepared. It's not a normal chill and relax resort." Some friends refuse to change their mindset and just think it's this wild crazy sex place. We have tried to explain and explain, and they don't get it. Those friends will never come. Now we have other friends that are a little more in our bar/party crowd that understand. We have put a big open invite out for this June for people to join us. This group of invites is all types and ages, and is like only 2 single guys, more single women, and some couples. We know all these people will have a great time, and I am not worried about doing anything different than I do normally there or at home. Elyse and I aren't as LS as people seem to think, we are just free spirited, nakedness isn't a big thing either way, and we are non judgemental when it comes all kinds of stuff. Now if there was some girl on girl party action, who is going to complain about that...not me for sure. But that's about as far as it goes. The only thing that might be a change would be Elyse taking her top off. She didn't take it off the first few trips, but now doesn't care. I feel like some of the home friends will be in that same boat on their first trip. Elyse may then take hers off, or keep it on, I don't think it will really matter either way and don't want to push or even overthink it. We are more there to party and have fun, and you can do that top on or off. Once people are blasted, I doubt it will really matter anyway.
