A few questions from a potential first timer

We were really nervous the first time we went as well seeing we didnt know what to expect.. I'm (Lisa) somewhat on the shy side, didnt take my top off for the first day (no one bothered me about this either which was nice).. by the second day I was topless dancing on the bar stools in the pool lol.. it is NOT a swingers resort, however you will find swingers there, and they may approach you. From my experience a simple "not interested" worked just fine and we made some good friends lol.. I never felt pressured to do anything while there.. Tony and I loved the trip so much we booked again to go this May and cant wait to be back! We were so happy we found this forum before we went though because it did prepare us for a lot and helped us with so many of our pre-jitters

 

We have just come home, 1st time to resort spent 13 days there.
We also were a little concerned before we arrived, as we like a drink and a socialise but we keep our bedroom activities within our own marriage. we was only really pestered for swinging by one couple from the uk and they was quite difficult to shake off. I will admit that i was not sure they was a true couple,, (maybe just 2 people who give them selves a better chance as a couple?). However from your fear of what we considered to be the proper swingers, you will get no pressure at all. Yes we had a few inquiries, but a simple "no" was enough and conversation just continued, they never pressed or took it any further, they were never rude, in fact quite the opposite.
Its not a swingers resort, they are there but no different to anyone else apart from they do something me or you would not. If you spoke to them long enough you would probably find something the other way around !
Mostly normal couples couples at this resort anyway.
Only group to be carefull of, or will apply pressure is the single predators. Hopefully they will not be in as greater a numbers for your trip. There was loads a couple of weeks ago and they drove my wife nuts.

 

You will have no problems at all. We had the same concerns last year and were amazed at the time we had. In fact, the majority pf people we met shared the same views of marriage we do. Our trip actually ended up being more of a relationship builder than a Sandals vacation which is couples only. The people around you will really make the trip as well. 38 days and we can't wait to get back.

 

I don't there are too many people staying at TTR that pester you about ANYTHING. My opinion is the majority of people are just couples that want to have a great time and stretch it the activities of "I would never do this at home." There are swingers but when we were there some of them were easy to spot as they were wearing white bracelets. We hung out with one great couple in our group that we met and we knew they were....and they knew that none of the other couples were. We still had a great time. It's all in what you make of it.

 

The only pestering people are the timeshare guys & they only hit you up the very first day. Avoid going to the right of the lobby desk. And, if you do & they tell you to pay $10 for some "important information", say no. That's the timeshare pitch although they call it a "new concept that is Not a timeshare". Whatever. (Also they are not that pestering, you can just leave)

We had a great first time. Our experience was that swingers are pretty open about it, they ask practically up front if you are "in the lifestyle" and if you say "no", they party with you, never to ask again. I loved that. In fact, if you end up with a pile of single males hanging around, they are great protection against unwanted attention.

Just go. Leave your worries at home and bring your smile.

 

Our group of 4 (all 30 yrs old) will be there from May 9-12 and we are all TTR vrigins as well. Neither couple swings, we just like getting drunk and naked so this place looked perfect for us!

 

We were first timers last April. I was drunk and naked day one. Does it get any better?

 

Only if you go to Desire, then you can be drunk and naked everyday, and night!!
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"We are thinking of going to Temptations in May. We are both very fun outgoing people, very openminded (we would probably be the first to be naked/topless) and are not easily offended."

** Then you'll have a Fantastic time, come on, the party awaits!

"However, we are NOT swingers."

** Us, either. We enjoy the same sort of stuff you guys do, apparently.

"Is this (TTR) a swingers resort ?"

** No, though will probably run into at least a couple of couples who are while you are there. It's an open-minded place, but you don't get it shoved on you. As nancy Reagan said, Just Say No," if that's what you want to do.

"If not, i might be worried that with the amount of drinking going on I might feel pressured to do something I don't want to do? We met a pushy swinging couple in the Dominican and I don't want to feel pestered."

** Doubt you'd feel pestered by a lifestyle couple at TTR, it's not the thing there. You might be pestered by some young, single guy from the U.K. (stories and opinions abound, both Pro & Con), but that's all the general threat may be as to pestering.

"Is the Boobs Cruise for Temptation guests only or can anyone go?"

** You just have to reserve the spot on here, but the vast majority of the BC folks stay at TTR, as its the most fun place to stay in Cancun IMO, and that type of people who want to be on the BC generally only have their real fun staying there at TTR.

"When I see pictures of some of the games (whipped cream, some oral sex etc) are they couples doing that to each other or do they pair random people up?"

** Couples paired together, or at least all willing and consenting adults volunteering for the friviolity. I can't say that Stacia was a "couple" with Terri, you see, but there was some nipple-whipped cream licking going on. Didn't hurt my or Adam's feelings at all, and didn't make the girls bad people. Did Make Omar give them a Woo-Hoo! though...