...shoe's on the other foot now... let's start again. I for one say this could be a great testing opportunity before the "I do" Keep him in the dark. Let him do his own research, but don't volunteer any info and keep as much as possible a surprise. Once checked in, if he lands on his feet - keep him.
Have to agree....vacationing together is a great way to test "I DO" lol We had an amazing 1 week trip to TTR last year, loved it so much we are going this year for 2 weeks...apparently we vacation well together
I agree with Donald...if you're wondering whether someone will be fun on vacation...for just a few days...at a really fun place, it sets off some alarm bells in my head about whether this is the person you want to spend year after year with in the real world? Don't wanna be a downer, but I can tell you from learning the hard way that you should think hard before walking down the aisle
We just can't imagine why any guy would not be all in. Is he a pastor or have a deathly fear of being around boobs and people having fun?
I think the biggest question to ask yourself about bringing a male significant other to TTR is whether he is the jealous or possessive type, as those guys tend to wig out at TTR. I went thru this at TTR Cabo myself and would not wish to repeat the experience. Also, we've all heard the stories (or witnessed it close up and in person) about couples who get into fights at TTR because one or the other of them is insecure. Of course, if your fiance is the jealous or possessive type, you should be questioning walking down the aisle with him, never mind walking around the sexy pool!
I know that for the last five days of your vacation you will have fun. See our thread about the first portion of March. As well, go out with a bang and join us for the cruise on the 4th as there are a few spots open. I am not a marriage counselor or any type of counselor but I say go, have fun and what happens, happens.
^ I agree here. I watched that first hand with a couple we met in Sept last year (on our very first trip) If you have to question bringing him because you don't think you can be 'yourself' when he is there, then it is definitely time to re-think who you have chosen to be your future spouse. I agree with the people that have advised to tell him what exactly he is getting himself into with this resort. He needs to know what type of place it is and what types of people frequent it, so that he is prepared. Discuss your boundaries before the trip so there are no surprises but know that those rules/boundaries might change once he is actually there in the moment. He might decide he isn't comfortable with something that he said he was, or (hopefully) he might decide to let loose and be comfortable with even more!
yeah, so i'm just being retarded. we're going to have a blast! went to jamaica last year & had so much fun! i guess i was just a little paranoid that he would be embarrassed by everythign going on there. i've told him what it is like. but i think he will be good once we get there and get some alcohol in him! plus, we got the Boobs Cruise on the 4th, and beer pong all week! can't wait! 9 more days!
