I consider many of you very wise vacation / Temptation experts and respect many of your opinions having gotten to know you either online or at Temptations in February so I am looking for advice/thoughts to help me figure this out. Here is the scenario... Jen and I won an auction from skyauction.com for temptations that has to be used by the end of May 2011. I choose pay now, reserve the exact dates later thinking there is zero chance we wouldnt go as the deal ranges from amazing to good (dependent on when you travel as there are surcharges for certain times). End result is I have already paid close to $500. So then about a week ago we find out Jen is with child. I guess this is why the birth control says 99% effective. We must be the 1% We are very excited to be having our 3rd child but obviously this puts a kink in the Temptation plans and jen is understandably thinking she would not want to go to temptations while pregnant. So now the part where I would love to hear opinions... would you... 1) try to convince your wife that the motto applies here also 'no one knows you and know one gives a damn' so she would be fine and I would be by her side not partying like an animal. Could still enjoy the sun, entertainment, meals, etc. 2) she suggested going with my best friend from school whose wife also recently became pregnant. This way the $ is not wasted but it seems wrong leaving behind a pregnant wife in cold PA. On the other hand the sun, drinks and volleyball keeps calling my name and we both would enjoy going out in Cancun (never made it outside the resort in Feb) 3) Just move on. Forget about the $. Come back in 2012. I think if I did option 2 I would send her to a spa or do a separate trip somewhere nice and relaxing for her also but this is a tough decision. Love temptations but not sure I would love it without the wife. Thanks for any thoughts you have.
First choice would be 1. but that would only be if you would be able to not make her feel badly that the trip might not be as exciting as previous trips. If that is not totally possible, then it would be 3. Any chance of selling your sky auction?
I think that depending on how she feels (morning sickness and all the great stuff that comes with being pregnant) and how far along she would be. She would still enjoy herself..there is another side to the resort.. the quiet pool where she can relax.. and enjoy the sun.. you would both be together.. still enjoying dinners and enjoying your vacation but you would have the option of popping to the sexy pool when ever you felt like it and maybe she would join you at times, having a chair for her every day would go a long way...even at the sexy pool for that matter..as long as she didn't feel like she had to push herself, I think its would be a good solution..as long as every thing is going well with the pregnancy and she doesn't usually have any issues I think it might be good for her to get away... Just my two cents..
Either option 1 or 3, The end of Feb she may not be showing at all, if that is a concern, though no one would care anyway. That would have to be up to her, how does she feel early in her previous pregnancies and how comfortable she is. If she is going to be sick the entire time, that is not fun for either of you. If she feels up to it, you know that you both will have a great time regardless... and if you choose to wait to go in 2012, everyone will understand as well. Option 2 would be out for us, We would never travel without each other, especially to Temptations. That is the one time each year when we can be away from jobs and family and totally let our hair down. No way we could do it without each other. lingerie night just wouldn't be the same without Janet and her pole dancing routine!
Just got back from TTR . There was a couple there that was about 4 to 6 months pregnant. Beside the fact of no drinking they were in the top ten couples for having fun, participating in games ect.. You could see the chemistry they had together It is what you make it :musik026:
Hmm well Ill stand in front of the firing squad... 1 would be my first choice, However the same situation happened to me years ago, approx 7 yrs ago to be exact lol, we had already pre paid for most of the trip, she too had a friend that was a month ahead of her in pregnancy stage, She insisted from the get go, she didnt want to go to Mexico , however her and her friend did wanted to go somewhere relaxing. So her friends husband and I went to mexico and paid for the woman to take a trip to see family they hadnt seen in a long time. We went and had fun, for those that know me...Im a fun guy, I dont go flirting and trying to pick up woman even now that im single.. So we had a fun relaxing beer filled trip and the ladies had a great time with family and friends. Upon coming home it was great to see each other and prepare for the newborn in a few months. I guess it ultimately depends on you two and how you guys feel about it. I am prepared to be shot at from all angles for this statement lol
I would have to say GO GO GO with your wife! One would have to figure the biggest reason to not go would be that your wife would not be able to drink. My wife does not drink, and I am a moderate drinker at best. We were there for our first trip in October and had the time of our lives. It is mostly about the atmosphere and companionship. Think about it, what if you can't swing a 2012 trip with 3 kids including a newborn. GO GO GO now while you got the tickets in hand. There is no way you will regret it. On a side note, still upset about your Eagles stealing the game from my Giants!!! Best of luck Paul
I kind of just assumed it was nontransferable as most of these auction sites don't allow it. However, I don't know for sure so I will double check.
One key point to emphasize is that she currently does not want to go. Otherwise option 1 would be the obvious choice. Three main reasons cited 1) doesn't seem right being pregnant in such a sexually charged place 2) can't drink 3) all the skimpy clothes/suits can't be worn so save the trip for later. So for option one to happen means I have to present a nice case for it still being fun. Which I agree is possible or it could backfire and be taken as pushing the trip too much and result in the wrath of a pregnant woman which nobody wants. (like Jim said, don't mean to offend but already having two kids I know I need to tread carefully here )
There is only one correct answer. Do whatever the person with a monster growing inside them wants. That is always the correct answer no matter what the question is.
