What are the do and don'ts of bringing NEWBIES?

We are looking at coming back to TTR in the first week of April 2013. We were a lil apprehensive on our first trip with not knowing what was what about the resort and what to expect. Now that we have been there though, it is game on! :cheerleaders:

We are talking with another couple we are friends with and she is a lot like Kellie, where she is pretty reserve and somewhat self conscious. If anyone else has brought a newbie with you after being there already, what other words of wisdom can you give that would help convince them to come with? We know that if we can get them there they will be reserve, in character, like we were our first time but they will repeat if we can get them there.

The biggest is obviously "nobody knows you, and nobody gives a shit"!

 

Tell them to join this site and ask questions all they want

 

Make sure they know what they're getting themselves into - make sure they join this site and are comfortable with what goes on at TTR. Our first time last trip, we went with a group of other people. I did my research, got to know people on here, and knew pretty much everything about the place. The people we were with didn't really know what they were getting into and I still don't know whether they 100% enjoyed it or not. They spent all their time at the quiet pool and didn't really like the noise at night, even in the quiet-side rooms.

 

We've given up on travelling with others ... the last time we travelled with others there was too many "Matt why isn't it hot out" "matt what are we going to do" "matt I'm hungry what do we eat"

So now we travel just the two of us, and leave everything else at home

 

We've had a chance to travel in groups to TTR, Mardi Gras, etc. and the key to success seems to be to not think of it is a group vacation--think of it as everyone on their own vacation, free to meet up if it suits you. Trying to force a reserved woman to jump into everything at the sexy pool will make her uncomfortable for sure. However, if you and your wife head over, mentioning how much you enjoyed the games last time, they may get curious and come along. Same with the Boobs Cruise--don't just expect them to love it once they get on the boat, but let them hear how excited you are and see who else is planning to go, and then make up their own minds.

If you expect to spend every minute doing things together, you'll have to make some compromises you might regret. But if you each feel free to do your own things, everyone will have a better time.

 

HA! My husband and I brought some friends (a married couple) with us last time. They are pretty "reserved" when we hang out in our group here at home so we tried to let them know we were NOT trying to get them to Temptations to swing with them. We just wanted them to see how awesome the place was. They were apprehensive but went anyway. WELL...needless to say, the husband won Mr. Temptation and they had so much fun they are coming with us again this year.

 

Yes I'm with you on this, I tell people about Temptations but I do not and will not take responsibility for others having a good time/vacation.

 

We know the cpl VERY WELL, if you catch our drift. They are a pretty easy going couple with an adventurous side. She has the same demeanor as my wife in that she is reserve.

Our first trip to TTR was a complete surprise for my wife, kellie, so she had no clue about what the resort all intailed. She did take a little bit to ease into the "culture" at the resort and but it only took about 1 day and were already talking about makin it a pilgrimage every year.


The cpl we are asking to come with, is hesitant for the same reasons Kellie was. We would plan on taking the vacation "together" and rooming together, but by no means will it be a trip that we have to be around each other 24/7. As much fun as it is to meet new people, it is also a ton of fun traveling with close friends. We are also planning on trying to schedule our trip with some of our other friends we met at Temptation last year.


We would just REALLY like to have our close friends with on the vacation and are looking for the words of wisdom.

 

tell them to be careful not to trip over the naked orgy group around the pools, and in the hallways....

 

Don't over-think this too much. Make sure they aren't going to be offended by topless women, adult games and language, some heavy drinking in their midst...and they will be fine. It's really not a swing fest. There is always the quiet pool and the beach to get away from the party if they want. My guess is that they'll join in the fun.