My husband and I have been curious about getting into swinging for years. We finally got the guts to make plans to visit TTR and have our dreams come true. My husbands father got wind of the situation and hit the roof. Now people in the family aren't talking, some are taking sides, I'm being called all sorts of names... I just don't know what to do next ? Kisses Joe (Josephine)
First off there are no guarantee that you would even meet a couple that you would even hit out off with, a there weren't as many ' swingers' there as you may think. And even if there were tons again there is no guarantee you would find a couple you both are compatible with. So never go with all intentions of just hooking up there. Other resorts maybe, Temptation eh. Hell you can hook up better in Vegas. Anyway.... By all accounts Temptation should be looked at like an awesome party vacation, with a possibility. And how does one just find out that you are going to Temptation with the' hopes' of hooking up? Cause like I said Temptation is a frat party for us.. Go and have a ball with nooooooo ulterior motive. Let people talk. And if they dont talk to you then that is their loss. You are an adult. Capable of making your own decisions on where you want to go, with who, and what you want to do. So enjoy the life you get. Good luck..
In the end, you are the same person as "before" TTR as you are going to be "after" (maybe with a bigger smile) so if family members are getting pissed about what YOU and your S/O want to do (and it is all consensual) then that's on them. If you guys are happy then they should be, as well. As with all things, after a few weeks, they will probably forget all about it anyway. Go, have fun, and RELEASE that tension at the sexy pool (and in your room...and at the beach...and anyone else's room if you want!) Haha.
No offense, but welcome to our world. As gay men, we have to face this with our families and friends -- ostracism, evil looks, talk about how bad we are. And to top that shit off, we're also inter-ethnic AND intergenerational. Whatever. F THAT! The trick? A couple of little mantras I follow: "What other people think of me is none of MY business" and "The people who piss on your dreams are just doing that because they are too chicken-shit to follow their own dreams." Just because it is known as a "swinger's resort" doesn't mean that you have to swing any more than you have to like kids to be at a "kid-friendly resort." Hell, it's also a Mexican resort and you don't have to be Mexican! Haters gonna hate. Small-minds gonna live small lives. Now, get your asses down to TTR and have fun! (And then give us other newbies a FULL report!):wave:
Definately agree with all of these posts! Go have a great time! Let people talk! My wife have been going for years, some of our family and close friends have some very opinionated ideas about why we go... And ofcourse we just let them thi k what ever they want. Just because it's tagged as a 'swingers resort' really doesn't mean much... We've gone with the open mind that whatever happens ....happens! And to be honest not all that much has happened except that, we've met the greatest people ever and partied our faces off! And came home time after time having had the best vacation possible!
Go have a great time. In the end they still love you and it will all work out. Been there alot of times and never ever did anything. You will too.
Temptation is not a swingers resort it is more of an adult spring break resort. Tell them to watch Footlose again and relax.
Joe, I'm really sorry to hear that you are going through this. I can't imagine how hard it is to get excited about your vacation with all the family drama swirling around it. MWWKW's attitude is the one I wish everyone had, but unfortunately there will always be people who are going to judge. Is your husband's dad freaking out just because he knows you're going to TTR or because he's aware you're interested in swinging? If he's just assuming, direct him to tripadvisor.com. Lots of reviews on there emphasize that the perceptions of TTR as a swingers resort are overblown. Try to show him he's making a hasty generalization about your reasons for going.
That idea of describing it as "spring break for adults" is good. I'm going to use that myself... Just a no-kids spring break for adults. Perfect
