Thanks to all for the feedback over the past few months! I helped our local lifestyle community with some guidelines for single men and combined them with what I have learned so far on here. I know for us it's been really helpful in managing the creeper population. Comments, suggestions, additions, editions are welcome. 1. Do not go expecting to get laid. TTR is an adults only, all inclusive resort. The theme is sexual, but that does not guarantee sex. In many ways, it is similar to all other adults-only resorts in Mexico. It's mainly populated by couples, many are monogamous. Many who swing are only interested in other couples or single women. Don't expect sex at TTR any more than you would at any other resort, bar, or party. You will have infinitely more fun if you genuinely arrive without expectations. 2. Expect to make new friends. Go in expecting to be a good friend to all, including the staff. Be nice or leave. Wear a smile. Say hello. Hold a door open. Give up your chair. Give genuine compliments. I know this sounds like being Rated G in a Rated X environment, but you're a single man in couple's world. 3. Introduce yourself to men. Sounds counter-intuitive, right? Maybe it also seems sexist, but I would also say a single woman should introduce herself to women. IMHO, it's just respectful. 4. Don't do stupid shit. Don't over drink, even when everyone else is. Don't take pictures. Don't get naked in public. Don't bring or take any drugs. Don't break any laws. Don't be mean to anyone. Don't start fights. Don't even think about spiking anything. Do any of this, and you are instantly and permanently on the creeper list. 5. Participate. Don't be a wallflower. Don't hole up in your room. 6. Respect everyone's boundaries. In the lifestyle, boundaries vary for each individual person. And they may only be presented to you as you get to know people. Before you know, assume nothing. After you know, whatever they are, follow them. 7. Let the affection come to you. The venue is not an invitation to play grab ass with complete strangers. It does not give you license to be a douche. If a good time is to come, it will come to you. And, as in rule #1, don't expect it to come to you. 8. If you know you can't control yourself, don't go. For the sake of all single men, please be honest with yourself about this!!! If you know you won't be able to resist grabbing someone's boobs before saying hello, or you know you'll be passed out drunk half the time, or you aren't sure you can follow any of the above guidelines, stay home or go somewhere else.
Great advice! We've made friends with plenty of singles at TTR and if you're a gentleman you'll have a great time and meet plenty of people. It's pretty hard to leave TTR without a whole new bunch of friends whether they are single, couple, or anything in between.
Totally agree with this post. As a single guy (12+ visits) I have always had a great time and have made friends with many awesome couples and respectful singles!
Great thread and info for the single guys and pretty much everyone else at TTR, thanks masseurjohn. T
