my wife and I are booking our honeymoon for December. We are not swingers, are we going to feel overwhlemed here?
No. We are not either, we were approached but it was always respectful. Usually a quick ‘Are you in the lifestyle?’ A polite no, and the conversation would shift. The cool thing is most of the people that did ask were the most friendly people. They’d still hang out and chat with us each day at the pool.
Think of it as a College Frat Party for adults..... the main party there will be drinking and dancing.... some people standing against the walls, some standing around talking, some partying, some flirting, some being all sexy and stuff for the sake of being all sexy and stuff... some being sexy for their better half.. some being sexy to put on a show.. and everything in between.... then you have those that want to take it to the next level so they find another willing party and head upstairs to the rooms to take care of business and then come back down to join the party. just like a College Frat Party. And no, you will not be hit on every time you move... true swingers usually can spot those that are of like mind, and those that can't know no means no and move on. So relax and go and have fun.. it's a place that can be what you want it to be and only what you want it to be. A safe environment to either sit and watch the crowds or push your boundaries - with each other or others - if you choose, but only if you choose. No one will force anything on you.... well the bartenders will be more that willing to give you all the drinks you can handle.. Jamie
@Jamie Can't they just be College Parties, and not College Frat Parties? Frat parties were often overloaded with tons of toobags with agendas and "get laid quick" schemes. I threw some big ass parties at college and people would come up often and be like "Omg is this a frat, what kind of boys are you?" To which they were responded to with "No, this is not a frat, only three dudes live here, and we are nice boys. Feel free to go to the frats down the street if you would prefer." ---trust me, no one ever preferred.
That's just one question. The answer to your single question, is... "Depends." If you get easily overwhelmed with tons of really fun people having a lot of silly fun, then yes. If you're worried about being attacked by raving hordes of lifestyle sharks, piranha & eels (got to love the eels), then No. That doesn't happen. Will you meet some? Almost 100% probable. Will they be friendly? Almost 98% probable. Will they ask if you and/or your lady are "in the lifestyle," or some such variation of such question? Maybe 30% possible. Our last 3 trips nobody has even asked us, and that's fine, and it's fine if they did ask and we told them now. Would they be offended and make you feel bad if you said no? Barely a 1% to 3% chance of that. There are assholes anywhere you go. To us, it's much more likely that you'd run intot his sort of person at a nightclub in your hometown than while at TTR.
You may get asked if you are lifestyle, but that's probably it. Would you would feel uncomfortable seeing/knowing about other people doing things with people other than their spouse? Our first time we had had talked with/seen posts by several couples on here and Facebook groups. Within a couple hours we met some of those people and two of them were making out briefly. That took me a second, but didn't really bother me. We don't participate, but you may see some of this. Point is you don't have to participate, but you will likely see people together who aren't spouses/SO. If you are okay with doing your thing while others do their thing, you'll have fun.
That's hilarious... that's exactly what some of the LS folks we've met at TTR call us... since hang out with 'em, but don't really join 'em.
Our first night there was glow night we were talking to a couple, they asked if we were in the lifestyle. We said no, and the dude says: “Well you’ll need sparkles anyway!” The girlfriend proceeded to rub the glitter adhesive on us, then the guy blew glitter onto us. We got a good laugh. Apparently they’d been doing it all night for shock value...
