Stipulations ?

Im trying to find the right words to ask but find my self short In doing so , So bare with me..

As a couple do you go to TTR with stipulations ?

Should you pre talk about the who what where when and why ?

Clearly were(People In general) going there with the Intentions of having a great time , Meeting new faces, putting a smile to the words after numerous private messages and what not ..But as a couple If youre both Into the open minded life style do you still go there with stipulations?

 

You should always discuss boundaries and expectations before you go, while you are there and after you get back. Knowing each other's limits is the BEST way to go home as a couple.

The resort has all levels of participation available from just watching the action, to slight to extreme flirting, to experimentation, to fulfilling your wildest fanaticizes. It's all there but if you both aren’t on the same page it can lead to disastrous results.

And, as I said, the communication needs to happen non-stop because things can change. As things proceed attitudes can get looser or tighter depending on the comfort level of both parties. It is very easy to have one or the other parties get really jealous and upset if you both aren't on the same page.

All that said, TTR is a unique environment where you can set, test and adjust the boundaries in a safe environment.

So have the talk, understand where each other is, and respect the other’s limitation even if they change midstream. If your partner understands when they say enough that you will stop, next time they may let you push the envelope a little further because they know you will stop when they say.

Anyway, that’s my experience having gone for several years and seeing how others work through the issue.

Jamie

 

Seen a few fights cause a couple didn't '' pre talk''.

 

Aha the Pre-talk...yes very important. You need to be comfortable with the your partner as well with yourself and know each others limits. Complete openness it the best policy to a happy relationship for sure.

 

Most definitely, don't ever go anywhere with expectations all will be ok with what happens happens and deal with the consequences afterwards. Talk ahead of time of what both will and won't accept. The lines of communications must be open and clear. Create so called "stop" words, that way if one isn't comfortable with what is going on, the other knows to stop without causing a scene. Then take the time to step away and discuss in private. It's respect of the others feelings and not ruining a relationship because things went too far.
This I feel is true both for vacation and at home.
As stated above I too have seen couples argue because one or the other overstepped the couples comfort zone, and seemed to ruin the rest of their vacation.
I too will say TTR is not a resort for jealous couples. It's human nature to look at beautiful people and TTR is full of them. People talk,people flirt, people are friendly at TTR and if someone is easily jealous or territorial it could turn out to be a vacation away from any or all of the fun atmosphere the resort and people you could meet has to offer.

Communication communication communication

 

Can one say Ill know when I get there ?

Do you believe that you have to be In the moment of things to know If youre willing to or not to ?

Or dont you have some what of a conscientiousness Idea prior ?


Personally I have a conscientiousness Idea prior to doing most things , I know wether Its for me or not , wether I like It or not ,wether Im open to an idea or not..

 

Sure to some extent since don't even know what if any situations may arise.... No pun intended

Absolutely if not before.

The third is curiosity not everyone will actually go through with things they may fantasize about.

Jmo for what it's worth.

 

like like like could have not said it better!!!

 

TALK TO EACH OTHER GET ON SAME PAGE AND YOU WILL BOTH KNOW YOUR LIMITS, IF YOUR NOT SURE ASK. OR WALK AWAY,
GLENN:cool014:

 

You can wait till the moment to decide what you want to do but a talk before at least sets the parameters you both are working under. Without that talk how is she to know how she can proceed or not?

The talk may consist of OK, we'll go and see what happens but here's the line for now till we talk there. Otherwise you both can end up walking around on egg shells and not enjoying your vacation.

Jamie