Stepping Beyond Vanilla At Ttr For The First Time

I’m 100% vanilla... at least I thought I was until I went to TTR. Was just there one day (not long enough) and was beyond excited thinking about the possibilities. Unfortunately I drank too much and missed out on the late night fun I seemed to have planned at the sexy pool that day. (Rookie mistake)

Thinking of going back! I’m intrigued and hoping to play, but have NO idea what that looks like/how to prep for that with my husband. We’re not jealous people at all and have talked about all forms of swapping and seems like we’re both excited to go for it with soft up to full swap.

Are lifestyle couples pretty good about leading the charge when it comes to interacting with new couples. I know communication is key so I’d make that known prior to playing we were new. Would that be a turn off for the other couple?

Other big question is what does the next day look like? Is it like a middle school lunch room where you have to sit with the same group the next day or is it okay to make new friends and play with others?

We plan on doing the Boobs Cruise too which I think seems awesome to rip the bandaid off!

Any advice or recommendations from LS couples to an excited newbie would be very welcome!

 

Every experience is different and it is what you make of it. Step one, be honest with people. being open and honest 1st is key. 2nd, know your boundaries and make sure that you both are ok with what might happen. Maybe test the waters out at a local club (they are everywhere). or start by flirting online (websites). you are going to be nervous the 1st time. Do not settle either of you. you don't want resentment on either's part. if the possibility is there, discuss it and then have some fun. People have different tastes and interests. if both are interested in the couple or the occasional unicorn, then go for it. Check in with one another during (could be just a simple look, or a thumbs up, etc). If one is uncomfortable, then stop.

The next day can be whatever you want it to be. Everyone is cordial there and most are in the lifestyle. THere are couples that play exclusively with only 1 other couple. if that isn't your thing and you want to spice things up with others, then just say that. but it doesn't have to be weird at all.