Since I booked my trip last month I have loved keeping up to date on this forum – great for the build-up to my trip in August! However, recently I’ve been getting really down about some of the recent posts about single guys and feel the need to say my bit! As a single (gasp), male (shock), English (horror) visitor, it feels like I am immediately going to be starting on a back-foot when I arrive and try and meet people, and I really don’t like that. On my last (and first) visit 6 years ago to BBG (as it was), I was made to feel so welcome on this forum, and I met the most lovely awesome people on the trip who really took me as “one of them” – friends that I still regularly stay in touch with. I can see that SOME people on here have had issues with SOME rowdy, drunk, rude single guys, and I can understand the odd grievance. However, there also seems to be the odd grievance about rude, dull, over-keen and inappropriate couples too, but they get cut a lot more slack. As I result I feel like I am going to be constantly “proving” that I’m a good fun honest genuine guy, and even then I can imagine some people still being wary as a result of some of the comments and threads on here. It’s hard enough to come on holiday on your own, so it’s not the best vibe to get. For example…I WILL want to take some photos of my holiday (I’m a video producer…cameras are kinda my thing!). I’m not intending to take photos of strangers and their boobs…no offence, but that isn’t really something I need. However, I am really concerned that everyone will be watchful and concerned if I ever have my camera out as a single guy. I have read some about some unfortunate “single guy” incidents, but I am sure there a LOT more positive ones that just don’t get mentioned. It’s also nice when couples (and single girls) do chip in with positive stories, but it’s very much in the minority. All of the talk about “single guys” is generally negative, and I do feel persecuted (ok, that sounds dramatic, it’s a bit of a upper-class problem in the big world of things!). I was even considering changing my hotel reservation last week – heaven forbid! Generally, when I meet people of whatever creed, background, age or status, I presume they are going to be awesome…until they prove otherwise. And I hope I get that from people in return. I will be partying with you all, drinking with you all, and checking out sexy people…with you all! I will be respectful, courteous, fun, great company (hopefully!) and making the most of my vacation. Please don’t treat me (and other single guys) as social pariahs. And don’t let the “single guy” term have such a stink about it – on here, or at TTR. OK…sorry to rant…now, where are those body shots?! :ernaehrung024:
I feel your pain. I'm sure once you get there you'll find that you're happy you didn't change hotels. But yes it is a pain in the ass that we often feel like we have to apologize for the actions of some dumb asses with whom we have nothing in common but a penis and a lack of a companion vagina lol! As far as pictures go, if someone has a problem with any you have taken feel free to offer to show them yours, and ask for an apology afterwards. I've always felt welcomed in 90% of the groups I've talked to there. But just like anywhere else there will be a number of jerks you are just better off not associating with!
On our trips to TTR (and BBG) there have always been new single friends in our 'party group' who we've met there. Not only have there never been any negative isses with them...they have contributed to our fun and good memories of the place. I'd welcome the chance to have several drinks with any new friends we happen to meet.
Matt, I have been eight times as a single and I have never, ever had an issue with anyone, in fact I know many of the same people you met when you went...guess who nicknamed me Fun Johnny??? I can still hear her saying "Mommy, Mommy, I Want a Fun Johnny" Can you guess who that was?? I will give you a hint...you took an article of her clothing on a trip across Europe. Go and have a ball, I guarantee that you will have the time of your life!! FJ
Most of the negative posts about single guys here are about the single guys in the large groups . Relax and enjoy yourself
Matt, What has been happening are large groups of singles going, we are talking 12-40. You know I will vouch for you anytime you need it and I actually met 4 really super nice Brits last week. Like really really nice. So don't you worry and you will have a fantastic time.
Just gonna miss you Matt............too bad as i always wanted to meet to guy with the travellling panties. We arrive August 30th. I think however that you will still be welcome among CCC groups here. . So have a great time.
We're newbies to TTR, going 6-13 June. We've read through the forums, getting an idea of what to expect. You're right, it seems like a great community and we can't wait to meet people in person. From the volume of things we've read about singles...it all depends on your approach. Rowdy large groups seem to cause some problems...but I think that's less so with individuals. Your post was very articulate and polite...so I can't see there being any issues. We'd love to meet and chat with pretty much anyone. Enjoy your trip!
No need. I was single and there in December. I had a blast and everyone was friendly. I could sit at the bar and say hello to ten people in ten minutes. Everyone of the people I said hello to was cool and friendly. I can't say that about any bar anywhere near where I live. That's a huge reason why people love this place and keep going back time and time again. I had a camera. Nobody gave me grief. It was put away in areas where people would not want photos taken, and when I wanted to take photos I asked permission. I did get some good photos of the birds bathing in the Sexy Pool, but they were more an example of why you keep the water out of your mouth. Hint, they were avian, not human birds. That and it was late in the day and no humans were in the shot. Enjoy yourself. Be reasonable, mature and responsible. Nobody should give you grief. Treat people with respect and you will get it back.
Don't sweat it dude, usually the most fun to drink with people we meet at Temptation are the single dudes.
