Hello all, It is my first post I want your thoughts on this: Do you feel that because your parents may have supported you when you were younger, that you "owe" it to them to support them now? (Pay the bills they run up etc, just because they did it for you when you were younger and unable to work) Thanks.
lol it was in the breakers forum first.....thats why i got so angry....i know all about the free for all dont worry.....but now that its in the FFA and no ones responding to it i feel better
I feel that it depends on the situation. I voted that way honestly because my Mother-In-Law, as much as I love her, is perhaps the most irresponsible person when it comes to finances. My wife and I are her mother's (my wife's grandmother's) Power of Attorney. My wife's grandmother lives with her daughter, yet pays all of her expenses (through us). When she can't pay for a bill, she has the company deduct it from her mother's checking account without our knowledge which has been very problematic. My wife also feels the same way. Neither of us would have any problem taking care of my parents if the need should arrive, however we both feel the same way concerning her mother. Which I have say is quite sad. But push come to shove, we will provide for her. Even when Grandma is gone. Because family is family and we try to abide by the Golden Rule. As hard as it is sometimes.
As a son who has great parents I do believe that that it is an obligation that I will do my best to take care of my parents although having 5 brothers I don't think that it's my sole responsibility ! As a parent w/two children in thier godawful 20's I don't see it happening for us right now ,but, you never know we're not that old :lol:
Glen you said it! When push comes to shove, you do what you can for family. ... regardless of the circumstances that led them to needing the help. Brother, sister, cousins, parents, grandparent~ if they needed financial help, I would do whatever I could to make life easier for them. Having said that~ I don't feel that I have an 'obligation' to my parents (or any family member), but I would help them in any way they needed~ including financially. I would do that without hesitation. It has nothing to do with feeling that I owe it to them~ it's because I love them and would do anything to ensure that life is as good for them as it has been for me. Admittedly though~ it's been the other way around~ even in my younger 'adult years'.... when the folks had finished with any 'obligation' regarding raising and supporting us kids. Once I was finished university and needed some help with my down payment on a house, etc. Guess who was there helping me out! When I opened my business~ which has now supported me quite well for many years now~ guess who came up with money to help me get it off the ground! I guess with my parents, I'm saying that they have always shown me that they'll be there for me~ I hope they know that I feel the same. I would do ANYTHING I could to make my parents' life happier and easier for them.
Well said Blondie. I think that a parent does what they can for thier children and can only hope that the children feel the same if and when they are in need.
I actually think it's an interesting question, Fletch! I don't think we should like at it like an 'obligation' to take care of them. Much like I don't think our parents raising us was an 'obligation'. (like Blondie said) They provided for us because they love us and wanted us to have a good life. That being said, I would do anything that I could to help my family if and when they need it. I don't look at it as something I HAVE to do, I do it because I love them and never want to see them uncomfortable or in need. Think about it: depressing scenario but anything can happen... God forbid you get into a bad car accident which you lose your legs and arms. I know that my parents would do anything and everything they can to make it easier, even though they've already fulfilled their 'obligation' (I am 30). Obviously someone without limbs would be unable to work and earn a living, so they'd have to support me as well. So, yeah, I'd do whatever I could for anyone in my family.
