Good morning everyone... I am looking for a little bit of direction. My wife and I are new here, so first off hello. My question comes from trying for quite some time to interst my wife in a "Temptation" style resort. Please excuse my ignorance on most of this and be gentle... Just to let you know a little background, we both come from conservative backgrounds, I am open to most anything but she is just opening up from being very timid and modest. She has agreed to book a resort with me and fully let me pick out her clothes...yippee!!!!! That was a huge step. She has even agreed to go fully nude during the day. The problem is that neither of us know what to expect so I can't promise her anything....I don't want her to be uncomfortable or feel pressured in any way but I do want her to have new opportunities available to her. She is also a little worried about the nightlife being too overwhelming. She has had a couple of surgeries including a c-section and is worried about the scars as well. I just would like to be as prepared as possible so I can make this an enjoyable experience for both of us. Is this even the right place to start for us? We are also discussing the boob cruise and would love to know more about that. Feel free to pm me as I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable with details. Please let me know also if this would be best suited for another area of the forums....thanks to everyone and thanks Steve for such an incredible forum!
Temptation is not a fully nude resort, so she can't really go fully nude during the day. If that is what you guys are looking for, try Desire or Desire Pearl. If she is really modest and you dont want her to feel pressured, I am not sure having you pick out the outfits/clothing will be the best thing.... It's fun to shop for 'naughty' stuff together, try Yandy.com and maybe find stuff you both like that she will be comfortable with. The Boobs Cruise is a blast and will break you guys in right and is a good way to meet friends. That said, if she's the least bit offended by nudity or PDS/PDA's, you may want to pass on it. C section scars? No worries. There are bodies of every shape and size and no one *should* give her grief about it. Except for a few assholes sprinkled in here and there, everyone is too busy having fun to care about a stranger's c-section scar! Now as far as opportunities go - not 100% sure what you're referring to but if you mean a chance to play with others, that is there too but not in your face. The trip will be what you make it! Welcome to the board. My advice is have her hang out on here/read up and get a feel for the place and people, it's truly like nothing else!
Well said Timbeck2. I was very conservative on our first trip. By day 2, my top was off. This October will be trip 10 since 2010. It has to say something when so many people return to the same resort so many times. We aren't into the lifestyle but have made so many great friends! I would suggest spending some time at the quiet pool to ease into the vibe. This forum is a great platform to meet friends before you go! And for your wife, we all have scars and insecurities of some type! That's why TTR is awesome because no one judges!!! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk - Angela
So true Ajay! We aren't in the lifestyle either and didn't discover this resort till 2012 but we agree with all you said!
Well said. . Sounds like jumping from being conservative, to agreeing to possibly going nude is a rapid change in attitude and comfort level, . . Take your time and enjoy the journey
Thanks for all the encouragement and advice....as far as opportunities I didn't have anything in particular in mind somimleft it vague...I am open to pretty much whatever with her consent and she really just isn't. Nudity and PDA don't bother her to PDS might, how prevalent is that? Sounds like the BC might not be for us the first time...or at least not for her. I would love to go, and thanks for the heads up on picking out clothes, I will keep that in mind.
Iacouple45: I think the change iis definitely attitude....we are still working on comfort level haha. Any advice on in between steps? Possible ice breakers?
All good advice. On the outfit point sounds very much like us in 2010. I agree that it is best to shop together. That part alone will add some pre trip spice. However, we both know she wouldn't pick anything close to what you would pick. Let her pick the items that are a little more conservative. Going at her speed will more likely result in a better time. Baby steps. She will likely see all the other outfits once there and wish she took more risks. She will embrace what TTR is while still in her comfort level. There is always trip 2 for the over the top stuff. Also, you can buy a couple separate outfits just in case. I brought a wicked weasel thong our first trip. Day 2 the mrs said I wish I had the courage to bring a thing and wallah , I had a thong. Did the same thing for white night. Just don't push the envelope too far with your selections. And only present if things are going well, meaning she enjoys the over the top sexiness. And last but not least, yes Temptation is the perfect place to start. I would not start with Desire based on your description of you two. Good luck. Be sure to report back later.
I agree with what Kyle said. I packed just a little on the conservative side for my first trip. Second trip shopping is going a lot differently. It has to happen naturally!
This sounds amazingly familiar, because this was me two years ago. We are now getting ready for our 7th trip in two years and what a ride it has been. We have never had so much fun and yes, the first trip is educational. I thought I was dressing sexy until I was dancing with a guy and he said "why do you have so many clothes on?" (They don't say that now!) Don't push your wife to do things, but let her develop at her own pace. A word of warning... Are you sure YOU are ready for this? More pointed, are you ready for your wife to change? If she loves it there as I do, I promise that it will be a life changing experience for her and you better be sure you are ready for that. I am very lucky to be married to the most understanding and giving man in the world that has embraced the changes I have made in the past two years. I'm not so sure many guys are that secure. I know most of our friends at home wouldn't be. Assuming you can embrace these things, you are in for the time you always wanted to have but didn't think you ever would!
