Hi all! Friends of ours recently went to TTR and had a blast. I think this place sounds amazing, my wife has her doubts though. I am more outgoing and she is reserved. Trying to convince her to give it a chance. She already said no way for Boobs Cruise, but I feel like once she arrives her mind might be more open. Any advice?
Lots of it on this forum. The overall suggestion is to use the search feature or browse through the first few pages of topics to get your feet wet. Many of them will have the general, and very specific, information you are looking for in many regards. The resort is really what you make of it. It can be as mild or as wild (without allowing public "wild wild") as you may be looking for. Depending where you spend your time, and when, you will find whatever you want. If you have and specific questions, let us know.
Use your first trip as an exploration trip. The site of the toplessness doesn't bother you after an hour of being surrounded by it. We go for the party atmosphere and the sexy pool. The sexy pool is the best swim-up bar pool that we have been to. This is the most non-judgmental place I have ever been to. There is no pressure to do anything that you are not comfortable with. Just ask her to go and give it a try, there are plenty of things to do in and around the resort to get a break from the party and toplessness if it bothers her. The quiet pool is nice it just doesn't have the party going on non-stop. The restaurants are very good. We go for the sexy pool and the atmosphere. We do not judge and we do our own thing and no one has ever put any pressure on us to do anything that we do not want to do.
We were hesitant at first to go to TTR. We still shy away from the center of the sexy pool when the games (just not our thing) are going on. Just because you go to TTR, it doesn't mean you have to act like a spring-breaker. Some do and love it. We are just more reserved, don't have a need to be entertained, but have never ever felt out of place. Chilling at the edge of a pool, on a beach, next to the Caribbean Ocean ..meeting people, visiting with old friends, or just enjoying our own company... hard to beat in a care-free atmosphere.
Something unique about the topless optional or lifestyle friendly resorts is the mindset. People go to the resort to meet people and enjoy their vacation with others. That doesn't mean swinging it just means having drinks with new people you meet and having fun. Just because someone is a swinger doesn't mean they don't want to talk to you and have fun playing volleyball or beer pong. The crazy stuff your wife probably fears doesn't happen in the pool. Skipping the Boobs Cruise might be a good idea if you are worried about it. People say go on the first day to meet others but just don't book until you get there and try on your 2nd or 3rd day if you are up to it. You might meet 1-2 other couples like yourself that all sign up for the same time. You won't be pressured to do anything you don't want to. I understand the wife being hesitant. She is worried people will care if she has a top on or that someone is going to hit on her? Don't be, no one will mind if you keep your top on and the people aren't going to keep hitting on someone that obviously isn't wanting it. I would only avoid this place if you don't like the idea of noise and meeting other people. If you want good food and peace and quiet then there are plenty of other options. One thing I didn't like when we went to Sandals vs Desire Pearl was no one was really interested in hanging out or talking. Everyone kept to themselves and it wasn't a social thing. I would boil it down to whether you enjoy meeting and partying with new people or do you want to focus 100% of the trip with the people you are going with. All the other stuff you worry about won't matter.
We kind of tip-toed into it. We went to another topless resort, the Golden Parnassus on our first two trips. Meri isn't afraid of showing her boobs, and many people have seen them at the golf course or at a party. I think she was more apprehensive about the perception of TTR. At the Golden she was the only one topless, and had no problem with it. We even did the Boobs Cruise that year. Saw some pretty crazy stuff, but again fine with it. We actually saw more body shots, and sex acts at the Tiki bar at the Golden, then we have witnessed around the pool or hot tub at TTR. So I guess my point is, she was fine with all of that, she just had this perception that everyone was a swinger at TTR, and things were just going to be more open. One first couple trips to TTR we/she got "hit on" quite a few times. The thing is, just a simple, "no, we don't do that" is all it takes, and really was never more awkward than that, and we never felt like they treated us any different after that. As you get older, you start to take it as a compliment! If she is worried about the "swinging" nature of TTR, I would say, you could honestly tell her it's not going to be an issue at all. If she is worried about being topless, or the party being too wild, there are many places to ease into it. Beach, quiet pool, and Sky-bar if you have that option. To me, the best part of TTR, is you have so many options. You can be vanilla at TTR, but you can't be wild at a vanilla resort. In the end if she isn't comfortable it won't be a fun trip, because the saying "happy wife, happy life" is very true. Don't force her, but give her the helpful stories from here, and see where it goes.
First, TTR is topless optional - not compulsory. Most people at Temptation are immune to the sight of boobs as a sexually arousing thing. We're not horny 14 yr olds any more. It's just normal at Temptation, to the extent that those who don't go topless stand out more than those who do. Imagine going to a non-topless resort and being the only one topless, it's kind of the same but the other way round. The swinger thing - don't worry about it. Especially on social media, there are far more people who claim to be swingers than actually are. All mouth and trousers online, and then don't say boo to a goose and go to bed at 10pm alone Those that truly are, are respectful and can read the signs before initiating anything.
The first time we went I was very hesitant. My husband had suggested we try TTR. It took me an hour or so in the sexy pool to take my top off. We had the best time we have ever had at an all inclusive & are headed back for our 4th time this summer! We didn’t book the Boobs Cruise until we were down there. It was a lot of fun. You choose how much you want to participate, other than taking your top off. The people at TTR make it so fun. Can’t wait to hang out at the sexy pool!!
My partner was hesitant first time round, took a little while to agree... the words still linger " oh, for fuck sake just book it.. just book it !!!!"... you get her mood LOL. The topless bit was never an issue . First full day in TTR that November was the Boob Cruise, ok that was an experience and indoctrination ( thanks Steve, Chino and all)........we've survived it all, had some great times, met some really smashing people... now waiting to plan 9th.... your main issue will be recovering from the experience.....
We have always been a very vanilla couple. We didn't go out, we didn't hang with friends, we would always just stay home and that was fine for us. We were quite nervous and hesitant about going to Temptation for the first time. Topless?! Gah! But really, it's all good. No one is pressured to take off their tops. I left my top on for the first 2 or 3 visits. After that, I said to myself "What's the big deal?" and regretted not trying that on my first trips. Have her look at TripAdvisor reviews; many of them are from people not necessarily in the "lifestyle" and you can see how many people rave about the resort. You can tell her that she can just enjoy the resort as is, no pressure, and if she wants to ditch that bikini top, she's more than welcome to.
