Hey I’m 28 years old & me and my husband 1st time going to Temptation is in June. We aren’t in the lifestyle but wanted to know can we still have a great time without being in the lifestyle. I don’t want to be topless but I also don’t want people to pressure me into doing it. I just want to have a great time with great vibes. I don’t mind meeting new people but I don’t want to be pressured into doing anything & I want to know what is the vibes nowadays ?
You will have a blast….if you want to. Between this site (and others) find people going the same time and “meet” virtually, be upfront that you are not LS (or where your boundaries are) and “like” people will find like people. Be ready that you may move some of your boundaries while there. We have met people for the first time there and now regularly connect with them on trips when it works (we are not LS either - though we were told last trip we are “LS adjacent”???). Sounded cool and probably accurate? Plan to participate in the themes, be careful of sending mixed signals and “try” to be in sync with your partner on expectations overall (not always easy once the party starts). You can probably get any question you have by searching or asking on here.
Thank you for your response ! It helped alot. We’re going in June. I’m 28 & husband is 32. The time you all went what is the typical age range at Temptations ? We love foam parties, are they everyday? We got a “playful experience” room, I read the extra but pretty much is it worth it ? And I been hearing alot about a tower room so I was thinking about upgrading to that room.
You will see mid 20’s to late 60’s. We met a couple last week celebrating their 60th anniversary! Great people, could talk cars for hours. Bulk of the crowd will be couples from 35-55 (our overall opinion). But there are enough of all ages to make friends and you will find the crowd that you might think is “too old” will out party and be more fun than those with much younger “livers”! Crowd changes a bit on the weekend as the crowd gets a bit younger with a few more singles. Holidays even more. The packages for rooms are good but you have to make sure you get everything you signed up for. They are not always the most coordinated there so don’t expect them to just give you everything.
Welcome to the party. My wife and I are headed back in June (8th-14th). We are late 30s now, but started visiting in our early 30s. Average age would be mid 30 to mid 50s, but we never felt out of place. As for topless pressure, you generally wont get any pressure at the resort to to topless. Exception would be if playing games at the sexy pool, sometimes they will offer ladies a bonus if they flash the crowd. In contrast, definitely wouldnt recommend the Boobs Cruise as while going topless is still optional, there is a lot of peer pressure to go topless.
There will be girls with their tops on and I don't think you will be pressured. Temptations has a good mix of all types of guests so no one is going to assume you are lifestyle or be upset your top is on. The main difference between a vanilla resort and Temptations is people go to meet people and party with others whether or not they are lifestyle. I know it can be intimidating to have half naked people come up to you and start a conversation when you are new but just keep an open mind! If a couple is LS and are interested in you they will just throw it out there and ask if you two are in the lifestyle. That is a question you will probably be asked so just be ready for your response. You don't want to sound thrown off or appalled that they asked you lol. Just something simple like "no, this is actually our first time somewhere like this so it is all new to us" will be fine. The reason it is asked is because it is not a lifestyle resort so no one assumes either way. If someone is LS and know you aren't they still want to party with you so being open minded is really key to having a good time there. There are a lot of folks that are vanilla back home but use Temptations as a safe place to push things a bit further (sexier outfits... maybe some exhibitionism or LS adjacent ). I promise you just like everywhere else most are worried about how they look and not judging you for doing your thing. We are also going in June, 1-5. Good luck on your first trip!
We’re the same as y’all. If approached say no thank you. My wife keeps her top on too. We have a blast. Depending on the time of year there seems to be more or less LS folks.
