I feel the need to chime in from the wife's perspective. We always go to TTR with an open mind. We are completely aware of the fact that others may/will hit on you, as a matter of fact its welcomed . However, I must clarify that when my husband meant scavenger he was basing it on the fact their were several single men that were hyperagressive and obnoxious, specifically IN the hot tub. There was one point when another female verbalized out loud that she was uncomfortable because one of the guys untied her bathing suit and tried fondling her when her husband stepped away. I understand some individuals do not mind the behind the back play. However, be respectful to those who do. As my husband mentioned we are not new to the lifestyle atmosphere. The sexy play doesn't bother us either, again, its welcomed. I will add that this is the only trip we've been in the hot tub and completely understand that not every trips crowd is the same. I've heard others hot and sexy fun stories in the hot tub and hope it's a good time next time. I also want to add that it did not ruin our trip, we are able to have fun anywhere. We are still avid TTR fans....
The amount of single guys this past week seemed high compared to reviews I have read about the ratio. This was our first trip. Most of the single guys were cool and we chatted with many of them that were very respectful. There were a few that were just flat out creeps and my wife even pulled one aside and informed him that most around the resort have tagged him as such and told him to cool it. He was very receptive and apologized. Anyway, the hot tub is a intimate environment and about every evening there were multiple girls making out. Some single guys will see this as an invitation and husbands see this as hot to watch. We liked it because were feeling out the lifestyle and gave another opportunity to feel it all out. Oddly, we had a few single girls be a bit aggressive, but thats another story
Thanks for the perspective. The amazing thing is it seems like people may be more aggressive at the hot tub at TTR then the hot tub at Desire. I equate it to the girl in high school that had no freedom. Parents ruled with an iron fist so she never got to go out and socialize and learn how things work. Then when she arrives at college, where she is on her own without controls, she goes nuts and screws 5 guys in a weekend. Didn’t know how things work and just went all in.
Funny but I when I was there last in July for 10 days I never once saw anyone in that hot tub, and the resort seemed packed.
My thought on that is, in July it’s so hot that the crowd stays in the sexy pool till 7. On our June trip, when the suns was out, the fun’s in the sexy pool until they kick ya out at 7 ish as the hot tub closes too. Different story on cloudy or rainy days.
Simple... Cost via less staff and safety. Plus folks are attemting to have a nice dinner Sutra (Habachi) which is next to the hot tub. Personally I like staring out at all the shennagins if I happen to be having an early dinner!
It's all about having security, staff etc. there to monitor things, if people are allowed to be in the pool someone would raise hell because the bar wasn't open. Everything has to be geared down to the lowest common denominator.
I agree that unwelcome conduct is unwelcome, but I'm gonna say it's a fair bet that any time I go to get drinks or come back from the bathroom my wife will have new company in pretty close contact when I get back, but she's a grown-up and is perfectly capable of handling herself and convincing someone that no really means no if she's not enjoying the attention. I wouldn't think that someone trying to untie her bathing suit would result in anything more than her laughing at the silly attempt, and if they were to push the issue one of the dozens of friends would quickly steer them away.
