My wife not as open minded should I book us temptations?

If you really want to surprise her, maybe ask her thoughts on a few different destinations, with one being Temptations. What I was wondering is, Why did you choose Temptations? Are you looking for a fun party, looking to get her out of her shell, or looking to experiment?

 

Hell mrst and i have been swingers pretty much since we met been to TTR 6 times and still wouldnt book a trip without telling her, as others said the planning , shopping and anticpation is all part of the fun.....

I have seen these types of situations go very wrong,,,,, you really should talk then listen then listen some more .....

(.Y.)

 

To add a little we have been married over 35 years, been through a lot over the years. Pretty much every woman I have ever met love surprises there, are very few that would be ok with not being involved in the trip decision to a resort like TTR.
Now going to Disney World that's a different story.

T

 

If she is reserved with nudity in public like you said I would probably suggest proceeding with caution. This is topless optional but the thing is, it’s a sexually charged atmosphere. We have all seen the ‘suprise’ go horribly wrong.

Nikki

 

Gotta tell her. You're not just traipsing off to Scotland for a day or two, you're taking her to another continent! She's going to need to do some planning, and judging by the Irish weather, likely some bikini shopping! If she's not prepared mentally and with the physical stuff she needs to bring along it will likely end badly for both of you. And Nikki is right, when it all goes bad at TTR for whatever reason, surprise, alcohol, a wandering spouse or otherwise, it can be epic.

The advice to bring her onto this forum and have her interact with people on here is excellent. Many people have come to this site hesitant, then visited the resort and made lifelong memories and friends.

 

Such a bad idea on so many levels.
Of what you describe about her reserved nature, this has a 95% chance of ending badly for both of you.
Tell her way in advance & make sure she is on the same page.
Happy Wife= Happy Life

 

We started from Couples Negril on our 20th anniversary..... Then twice Desire, Hefo and now Temptation. IMHO it’s a bad idea not to tell your wife about specifics of this resory. But you can tell her that she’s not obligated to do anything and can wear swimming suit all the time. And it should be easy on Temptation as there is no nude only area like in Hedo

 

I say go for it!
In 2009 I surprised my wife with a trip to Hedo 3. She didn't know where we were going until we got to Jamaica.
Note: She was more open before kids but became quite reserved after.
We started out on the C/O side at H3 and spent the first 2 days there. But we met some really cool couples that helped her transition to topless.
It turned out amazing - however that first day on arrival she was very anxious and let me know it! I just reassured her that we would do only what she was comfortable with. I didn't pressure her - other ladies there made her feel confident and comfortable.
I believe you'll find the same at TTR - or even better given all the options for pools, eating, etc and the people are amazing!

 

It sounds like you are already doubting this is be a good idea. You state you have been married for 10 years by now you should have a pretty good gut feeling on how you wife will react. If you don't I would dare say this isn't trip to surprise her with. This can be the type of wrong decision that may damage your relationship by the end of the trip if not in the beginning. Also

I assume you don't live in Mexico and can just drive home so it could be costly. If this goes south at best you pay for a early flight home at worst you end up paying a lot for other accommodations. I will assure you the remainder of your vacation will not be enjoyable. That being said I do recommend you pursue a trip to temptations. As others have said first do you research find out what would appeal to her then involve her in the idea. If you real clever you can get her to make the suggestion you go. That was my route and it tuned out we had the time of our life. If its going to happen it has to happen with out you applying pressure. There is pretty much nothing like the Temptations experience. If she has said she wants a lively vacation this is it, actually it makes lively look like a senior center. Some of the things you read can certainly be intimidation if your reserve, but it is true you only have to participate in what you comfort level is. No one will force or pressure her into anything. Now what you witness well I guess that cant be helped too much.
My wife was sort of similar and wanted to pretty much just go for the party. We were tired of the stuffy resorts and needed something more fun. We did all the research and she decided we should go although with plenty of caveats. She was nervous and told me I better not try to pressure her into anything. I heard that phrase more time than the paseos it cost to get on the boob cruise. Well as it turned out 20 minutes after getting in the sexy pool she was so comfortable she took her top off, I had to inspect a few time that she was in fact my wife. Her top never went back on and the rest is history. Do this the right way and it could be the time of you life. Do it wrong and well you can come back a single guy but I don't think its as much fun. Choose wisely
Good luck ​

 

The first time we went I talked my wife into trying it once. The first night she hated it and said she wouldn't come back. Bey the end of the week she thought it was the greatest place on earth. Cant Imagine how it would have went if I hadn't told her what type of resort it was before going. With the lack of trust she would instantly have just showing up and saying surprise I don't think she would have come around. Most likely wouldn't have even wanted to talk to me after the first night.
We have been at the resort when the husband has brought his wife and then when they got there he pretended "I didn't know it was this kind of resort". She new he was lying and they had a terrible trip. Every time we talked to them she told my wife how she was tricked into coming.
Tell her everything you know about it. Its not the kind of week you want to start out with trust issues.