My wife not as open minded should I book us temptations?

My wife and I are married 10 years this February and we went to cancun on our honeymoon, so I'm planning on booking temptations for our anniversary, she can be very reserved when it comes to sex and nudity in public , will i just book hotel and say nothing and hope she lets her hair down and has fun ?

 

As much as it might be easier, I would caution against that. Like most women they want time to get themselves ready and ensure they have the appropriate attire for their holiday. Probably a good idea to sit down together and discuss TTR, even check out the site and amenities it has to offer. You never know, she may shock you.
Remember, from a couple that has been there 4 times, TTR can be as mild or wild as you make it.
Hope it works out for you!!

 

Thanks p&s,
my plan was not to tell her our destination until we checked in at airport she always said that we have to book a lively holiday when we are still in our 30s (like Ibiza) maybe temptations a move to far ?
If we did go , is it pushy to take part in the entertainment if she isn't up 4 it ?
I'd say after couple of days and few drinks she would love it (I hope )

 

With the roof top pool, hot tub and bar as well as the quiet pool area she can go as slow as she wants. There are also order off the menu breakfast, lunch and dinner options away from the buffet area if that’s not romantic enough for her and it’s easy to be around the fun without being in he middle of it.

Temptations resort is super focused on social fun and good times with an atmosphere that is romantic and flirtatious, which is just cool to be around. See if she is at all interested in topless optional / non-mandatory and the option for evening dancing.

If so, then you guys are probably good to go and just be mindful that starting slow and letting her explore at her pace is the best way to let her find her comfort zone.

 

Thanks

 

I would agree with P&S, women go through a process to get to where they need to get to.

This plsace is amazing fun, adults costumes, dancing, drinks food, and the people you meet is crazy crazy.

What I would do is invite her to the forum with her own account, let her talk with the people and read the stuff for herself rather than go through your filters. Then she can decide what she wants vs what you want. If your not on the same page its going to be a bad vacation, and I know thats not what your after.

She needs to understand the level of consent and adultness of this place.
We are all fun, and we ask permission to touch in most cases. Groups of friends are a bit different. She can speak her mind at any time and tell people that its not ok to touch her. People will or should respect that. We in groups, like the February shit show frown heavily on disorderly conduct.
She will need to be ok with other women hitting on you, shit we hit on everyone all the time, cause its sexy time! hehe. Your all beautiful!

Now with that said, there is a very large volume of adult natured things that go on here, we are all consenting adults, and open minded.
The beautiful part is that you can participate as much as you choose to, or not. Some people like to sit back and watch, and that is their thing!

Be open and honest with her or its going to bite you in the ass hard.
Ask questions too, this place is a great space for conversation and honest opinions, were all open and ready to tell her the truth.

 

Hmm? Can’t really suggest it’s a good idea to surprise your wife with the destination. Not many women would want to have their hubby withhold info that forces them to skip the chance to shop and get ready for the resort visit. You might get way more burned by the surprise than what you expect to be a good thing. Honestly is the best policy in the area of trust and connections. She may interpret the surprise as your wish for you only so be cautious.

So...., If you think it’s being pushy then it is. Suggest you take a different approach on this by being her doorman instead. Just treat new concepts by the idea to open the door to new possibilities and let her look around first. If she wants to enter she will and if she doesn’t then show her another door.

May the luck of the Irish be with you !!

 

Too far? Not sure, you know your wife the best.. lol!
I think B&K nailed it with what she said. Now to go by yourself at the pool and participate in the activities without her, again up to you guys and what you feel comfortable with.

 

Thanks for the advice

 

If you want to see your 11th anniversary I recommend to get her involved in the process especially at places like Temptation. To a woman the pre trip stuff is real important.

T