Thanks for the replies so far, very helpful. You are probably right about the surprise idea, sigh I kind of mischaracterized my intention, the suprise would come well before we actually got there. That being said, I strongly think this is exactly what we need. We've been together for a long time now, and were just too damned used to each other. I highly doubt either us us is interested in swinging, but just being around people who are letting loose in that way. We have loved our time at other resorts in the last, but our last two times were with big groups. I just don't think we could go back to being a couple sitting around hoping to find a party again...
you are far too concerned about the 'swinger' aspect. the majority of people at Temptation won't be swingers. (personally i think that's a bad thing but you will not find a swinging vibe at all unless you are looking for it)
I was 29 my first trip and my husband was 32. I'm now 35 and we still go back at least once a year. This is exactly the right resort to 'add some spice'; however, as others have said I would definitely reconsider the surprise element. TTR definitely walks a fine line, and it's fun but only if you're both on the same page. Communication is essential. You do see some couples having a rough time because they didn't talk it through and set boundaries before they visited.
In all our trips to TTR we have never asked a couple to go back to the room and their answer was ‘no, we are not swingers.’ Huh. What does that mean? It means it is Friday. Woo hoo
TTR is not the right place for bored shy people who only want 30 year old crowd. If the relationship has become uptight, the spice of TTR is not a tonic but could be toxic.. Most TTR vets have seen this scenario before. Sometimes it doesn't have good results. Just my 0.02
Not always working. I been there three times and trying to explain my new hubby what is TTR , and he is reading this forum some time, but still thinking we are going to crazy swingers resort I know, he will change his mind when we will be there
I have sat on my balcony several times and heard some awful blow-ups between couples. The very worst one was an experienced, very swing-friendly couple where one of the couple had too much of a wrong drink combo and she was very upset. The next day she was apologizing to everyone. "I just don't know what got into me". Oh well, it made for an interesting 15 minutes in the area near the hammocks that night. Ages mix well here. I don't even think about being an "old guy" and I sure as hell don't act like it. At least I hope they mix well. I'm 55, my companion Kirsty (in my pics) this July is a wonderful young brit, 31 years old. She won't kill me unless she drags me into her drinking games.
I was 27 the first time I went, I'm 34 now. I was one of the younger ones but not the youngest. We had an amazing time. There is generally a good amount of 20-30's there. When we first booked the resort we were simply looking for adults only. We didnt want kids running around all over the place. After we booked the resort we looked it up and I almost had a heart attack. I'm not uptight but I didnt realize what I had signed myself up for. This will be our 6th trip back, we love it!
