We always bring spray, never really suffered though. We always have a plug in connected in the room though!
You'll be fine! We went on our first trip last year after booking it the day before. We're not in "the lifestyle" either but still had an AMAZING time. We've even booked a second trip 10/14-10/21.
Haven't found a theme night we didn't like... Masha wants to do Mardi Gras theme because we didn't quite make it to the party last trip and our outfits are still in the bag haha. I am a fan of White Night, and sheer.
Lol were we even there for tie night or just too drunk to remember. I f we were what were we wearing?