Steve, there is a reason we were fast friends. I couldn't have said it better myself. And I almost always do the same wide-open, you're getting a hug, kind of thing too. It's just who I am and nobody ever seems to mind it. As for the bare boobies thing, those are the best hugs but you have to be selective about giving those out. Not everyone is okay with that. Although, I do have to say that an earlier statement about it making a man Desire a woman and watch after her is patently absurd. Unless there are some unresolved issues and then Temptation might be the best place for you.
I'm glad you commented on my comment Guido - cause I hate the thought of having to monitor all of my interactions with men just so they don't get the wrong idea about "how much I like them". But I have to admit I've seen what my husband is talking about so I've been left with not choice but to concur. Maybe it's just the particular men we've encountered cause I'm not exactly some hottie sex kitten!!! Personally, I think my husband just plain old, does not want to share. At all. Ever. Never. With other men, that is. LOL.
Oh I defiantly assume that every girl that hugs me likes me. In fact, I assume every girl that talks to me is trying to get it on with me. Actually, to be honest, every girl that even thinks about me already has had sex with me in her head...oh and I was amazing!
Had no idea my neurotic questions would generate so much activity. It's quite entertaining! I've been promised so many "bare hugs" on the day I arrive that I'm changing the theme night on Oct 23 (the plane lands at 9:30 PM), from White Night to Topless White Night! I was tempted to quote everyone I wanted to mention, but there were too many and I suck at taking notes. Someone mentioned asking permission. I kind of like that. What's proper? "Can I give you a hug?" "Can I get a hug?" I think implying giving is always better. I'm jealous of the people like Guido and Steve who have a happy, "devil may care" attitude. It's an infectious confidence which is really nice to see. Unfortunately, it's also offensive to some, but then again, they don't care. Which is cool. The comment about men desiring your significant other because she's hugging everyone is also legit. I can certainly see where he's coming from. Not sure of the results though. I've seen guys get what I'd call "too friendly" with Lisa. As long as everyone is having fun, I just let it go. I trust her 110%. Now, if she looks uncomfortable with the attention, I'll definitely step in and politely offer them a shot of Don Julio so that I'll be brave enough to kindly ask them to calm down a bit. Almost forgot the Delicious thing. I believe last time I was there in October (and it's likely not the same person) a woman came up the last day we were there and said her name was Delicious or Deliciousa or something. We were drinking (last day an all) and so pretty soon she was getting everyone shots of tequila and in the 10 AM party mood. I just remember asking what her name was and then having to say, "Really?" or "What?" or something like that. Then I had a Hermione flashback, "It's LeviOsa, not LevioSA." Nothing to do with hugging although I seem to remember some tequila foggy hugging. Maybe glitter was involved. And now we have "safe hugs" or "shoulder to shoulder" hugs that may become more if you lean into it. My fear with initiating the safe hug is with the size of the boobs and adequately navigating the situation if you know what I mean. Yet another thing I can try. "Was that a hug or was he trying to head butt me?" I like spaceaphobe. It was fairly descriptive of how I feel. Except I think if I'm ready for it, it's okay. If I see you coming, I'm fine with hugging and getting in my space. However, I have a blank stare when I'm concentrating and I've had people come up to me and get in my space "unexpectedly" and I freak out a bit. Remember, over confidence implies inferred consent (which is scary).
If you don't hug me with my bare breasts I'm offended! Make your next "soon trip" in January and I'll show you what I'm talking about.
No I don't have a I don't care what i do to others attitude. I am pretty observant and very respectful. I wouldn't put anyone in a uncomfortable position...except maybe my wife Sure it's the same person. There is only one. She rocks, and that story sounds pretty accurate!
This is Sam. I can't think of a better compliment than when another man looks at my Sindy and desires her. I know I sure Desire her, which means that the guy and I immediately have something in common. His Desire should not be something of concern. His behavior is another subject alltogether and anything that Sindy or I either one are not comfortable with is another story. I'm not one of those guys who wants his woman to be hot just for me. If I was, I wouldn't go to a place like TTR!
I guess this is my point. My husband also appreciates the fact that his wife is desirable to others, and loves the way Lola runs around sharing the love with the ladies!!!! However; he feels, and I think possibly rightfully so, that when I start hugging or touching men, the men can often take this as an invitation for more: like I've crossed a line. Because I'm a very friendly person, a social butterfly, I can inadvertently cross that line, a lot. I just hate having to even worry about the line. Thats all.
