Octoberbreast 2015 planning thread!

Every night and don't forget the whistle! Lol

 

Hmmm. Some things will have to be via pm but here goes a pg version... (Apologies in advance, my responses are long winded as I love to tell a story )

As happens with anyone we both would encounter situations in daily life...work, the store, going out with friends, or even together... where someone would flirt with one or the other of us. Maybe a little flirting back but it stopped there. But the fun part was sharing the stories with each other and fantasizing a little. You know, just bedroom talk. For years that was it. Then on several occasions we were out together and maybe a female bartender or a girl on the dancefloor would openly flirt with the mrs. She wouldn't even really notice. And I would be like 'uhm, hun, when she asked what we are doing later the response can not be we have to get home as we have a sitter and kids' lol. That opened the door to more discussions about her interests in ladies and we both agreed that would be cool if it happened some day. Of course normal life, priorities with family, etc gets in the way. And several times we were in situations where we looked at each other and said... uhm is this an opportunity? Or is she just being really friendly? Never having the courage to take it beyond flirting, sexy dancing type of activities.

So work, family, kids, work, more kids blah blah blah finally drove us to take a husband/wife without the kids vacation in 2010. We googled adult only resorts as we didn't want to be around kids at all on this vacation. Came across cancuncare, read a bunch of posts and decided Temptation is what we wanted. Started buying some stuff we wouldn't normally buy. A few theme night items that pushed the boundaries a tiny bit but mostly more sexy club wear as we were taking baby steps. She wasn't even sure she would go topless. Wanted to but we discussed in advance that everything depended on the atmosphere. We discussed those girl/girl fantasies too and what our limits were on all fronts regarding that and other things. You hit the nail on the head above. Communication is most important. You both must be on the same page and honor each other's limits. It has to be a partnership. We like to say we rather regret not doing something than regret doing it. And we do everything as a team and are open and honest with each other at all points.

So that first trip we went in with the attitude of whatever happens happens. Not seeking anything out. Just have fun first and if the opportunity presents itself then we are prepared and on the same page regarding limits. Well the opportunity presented itself rather quickly lol. But first how we got to that point. We found the atmosphere of the resort to be so care free, open and welcoming. Within an hour she was topless and we had met 10+ friends from the feb 2010 roll call. Everything was centered around the party and simply having fun. It was easy to have discussions about interests on many different levels. Some non ccc folks saw how much fun the ccc group was having and came over and assimilated into the group. One particular couple we hit it off with. We decided to meet up on lingerie night. Somehow topic came up regarding 'interests' and we all seemed aligned on that front and both mental and physical attractions clearly existed based on the fun/flirting at lingerie night. So the mrs talked to the other mrs and before you knew it we were all nekkid in our balcony jacuzzi. And from there that nights at ory belongs on the other site.

With each subsequent trip our limits changed a little. Baby steps over several years limited to 'vacation fun'. We are fortunate that we never really had or have any fights or disagreements in this area and pretty much everything has been a positive experience when it comes to our vacation fun. We think communication is the key combined with having fun first and foremost and then whatever happens happens within those limits together. During octoberbreast 2013 we had an experience that made us say 'why are we waiting for the semi annual vacations?' Ha. And in 2014 and 2015 we started exploring while not on vacation. Again almost all positive because of the above mentioned rules/steps but whenever something isn't positive we run like hell lol. Life is short. Live it up. But never compromise what is most important. The relationship between you two! We are happier than ever!

 

I forget your rm dates. If you are there Friday night it would be fun for sexy circus night. Just say you are there with your referee outfit and whistle to keep all the crazy animals in line? Might be fun

 

Do yall prefer to know the other couple or nor know them? And do you talk to the other couple after all of this?

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One funny experience that first trip. The first night we were invited to a jacuzzi party in the evening. Naive us thought it was just a bunch of people hanging out having a drink. Expected a cocktail hour. Well it wasn't that type of cock-tail we saw. Oh boy that was bad. Can you tell I am 20 days out from vacation? Anyway we walk in and 4 couples are full out at it in various locations across the room and hot tub. The host who got up to answer the door saw the deer in the headlights look and said... Oh sorry. If this is too much you can go or you can grab a drink or whatever? I admit the turn around and run thought entered my mind. We looked at each other, said sure we will have a drink, just trying to be cool and not show how freaked out we were. Lol grabbed the drink, said hi to everyone and over a course of about 10 mins slowly backed out the door. Too much, too fast. Lol. And we still are not at this point five years later. Different strokes for different folks. But the reason I share is the point that it really is a carefree atmosphere. Everyone is cool and understands everyone has different interests and levels of comfort and they respect that. So go have fun and just go with the flow. At the very least every day is an adventure! Ha

 

Thanks so much for sharing.

 

Hahaha. .. I almost spit my supper out.

 

Oh yeah. Meant to ask what is our limit for the toy exchange?

 

Definitely know the other couple or single female. Personality and an intellectual attraction means a lot. Absolutely talk and keep in touch. Different people have different approaches but that is what works best for us. Just to quantify this, I can probably count our experiences on two hands so we are by no means experts. And one more clarification, when I say 'know' I mean get to know them first, not already know them like they are neighbors, vanilla friends etc. Of course at TTR 'get to know' has to be over a day or two. But sometimes you just connect much quicker than that. Hope that makes sense. Feel free to pm any questions or ask here.