F*ck You Temptations – Please Read!

This is a horrific story that I hope for all of our sakes is an isolated incident. Alcohol + sexy atmosphere = inevitable trouble to some degree. The situation leading up to what happened here is all too familiar. Some people turn into assholes when they’ve had a drink, and it can literally happen to anyone (so not discriminating against guys or singles here). Most of us have fun when drinking, but for some it turns them mean. They can be perfectly pleasant sober, but too many drinks and they either don’t realise they’re being offensive or don’t care. Add this to the general vibe of TTR and you can see how easy it is for trouble to brew. This guy clearly had a skinful and thought his attempts to woo the wife were going great, hence why he wasn’t getting the message and why this escalated how it did. I’ve seen people like this before and sometimes you have to literally tell them to “fuck off”, because they take a polite ‘no’ as a challenge to change your mind. Most people you tell to “fuck off” get the message and leave it at that, but there is the special kind of asshole that takes this rejection as a personal offence.

This isn’t something new, and I’ve seen things escalate much worse and the police weren’t called – security just hauling the offender back to their room. So what was different about this time? Was it because it happened in the day? How drunk was this guy? Was he sober enough to be all “seriously I was talking to this girl, didn’t realise she was married, then all of a sudden her husband attacks me” at the front desk? If punches had been thrown then I could understand, but pushing? How did the guy end up on the ground? Was it a defensive push that knocked him over, or a deliberate headlock / grapple to the ground? I’m definitely not blaming the OP, Christ, many would react exactly the same way, but I’m thinking this was the point it escalated enough for the resort to feel the need to involve the police. Even though he was being an asshole, if there was physical contact that he didn’t initiate that left him on the floor, and he’s playing innocent at the front desk - if security saw this happen, they will assume the worst.

It’s clear to anyone reading this how the situation came about and who is to blame. It’d be a different story if he had been beaten up, but from the account on here that’s not what happened. I hope this guy somehow reads all these comments and feels ashamed of his behaviour. He antagonised a woman who had no interest in him, to a point she felt she needed to push him away in a defensive move. It sounds as if he was getting prepared for a fight. His ego was bruised from the brush off (hence the verbal insults), he was drunk, and he’d physically followed the wife from the bar to continue the confrontation…that to me signals a physical threat, and if I was in that situation, I would certainly be on edge. I’m only sorry that at this point she tried to push him away. If people had stepped in to shield her from this guy, and someone had alerted the bar staff to get security, it would have ended very differently. He’d have been taken away, and if he continued to be an asshole and antagonise women on the resort, he’d of been kicked out for inappropriate behaviour.

As for the rest of the story, it’s terrible this happened to you. You’re one of the unlucky few that get to see what happens when things go wrong on a Mexican vacation. If you google Cancun horror stories, yours is one of many accounts of corrupt police and resorts that refuse to acknowledge the situation. They try to wash their hands of these situations as quickly as possible and pretend it never happened. You ask why you were kicked out for knocking this asshole to the ground, well if you were allowed back in, you’d naturally be telling everyone and anyone the rest of your stay about your ordeal. In the past, kicking guests out would be the end of the situation, but nowadays we have social media to spread the word. They forget this or don’t care. It’s not morally right, but they will claim as you had physical contact with this guy, it was their right to void your stay. It was damage control.

I guess this is a lesson for everyone to be aware that something minor can escalate very quickly, where you can wind up in jail and kicked out of the resort. This is Mexico and you absolutely have to take precautions to protect yourself from the horrors that some people go through. Everyone knows to take out trip insurance, don’t drink anything you haven’t ordered yourself, don’t break the house rules (e.g. no sex in public, don’t buy drugs, photograph strangers, sneak someone onto the resort) but this is a different situation. Anybody could wind up in this position.

 

The vast majority won't boycott. Lets be honest here man.

 

Your reading comprehension is almost as bad your manners lol

 

Good post.

They probably know about complaints from emails and/or Facebook posts that have been deleted.

They most likely don't care unless there is some significant economic impact. Why would they?

That would require a concerted boycott effort or something along those lines.

I don't see enough people willing to do that for it to get off the ground.

 

just like sunscreen , apply liberally wherever and whenever needed .

 

This thread perfectly sums up the entire Internet.

 

tempation so called fight!

Sean and I were there from feb 1-10th ( sean had many conversations with you and your lovely wife …thinks you are wonderful people)...we were at the party pool all day and must of just left before the incident.

Later that night we were at paty-O's bar and long behold, drunk guy is asking us if we saw what happened to him at the party pool. He mentioned his lip was cut from the so called fight , but i didn't see a mark on him. He then mentioned that he hadn't slept in 3 days because he was all coked up and drinking non stop. I think in his mind things went down that actually didn't happen because of all the drugs.

That same night drunk guy comes up to me saying his friends going to be arrested because he urinated outside at the resort..he had to sign a waiver saying if he did anything else during his stay he would be charged or kicked off the resort….we had a bet with our crew of friends that we hung out with ( about 15-20 of us) all making bets how long the single drunk guys would last on the resort.

Another night drunk guy was trying to pick a flight with my man, i told him " ok time to leave my friend" and our cop friend, noticed i was upset and also said the same thing to him... so he apologized and left our table. He's a shit disturber pain and simple. I think their should be no single men allowed under the age of 35 or something at the resort because all of the problems that occur are always the young, single guys full of piss and vinegar.

That is so awful that that happened to you and your wife. I new mermaid ( bright pink hair) she was seeing the kid that urinated on the resort grounds, and her date was best friends with drunk guy…i'll ask her if she was there and what happened if you would like ? She was a sweet girl.

 

Looks like pussycats mommy didn't give him enough attention. Vintageskin's post should sum it all up. The asshole was coked up and on a 3 day bender. What don't you get here?

 

Interesting idea worth considering. I would not be in favor of banning single guys as a group because many are respectful, polite, and enjoyable gentlemen to be around. However, those traits often come with a little more age and wisdom. Lets face it, the single, "spring-break" type of young guys easily can wrongly interpret the sexually charged atmosphere combined with plentiful alcohol as an open buffet. What the more mature (over 35) gentlemen understand and the younger single guys often do not though is that it is all about respect.

TTR is not an open sexual buffet despite what they may heave read or heard. In fact, I consider it a place that is built on respect. So much so in fact that many of the female guests feel secure enough and free enough to allow themselves to relax in a way that they cannot almost anywhere else. And they are correct because the vast majority of guys at the resort are not going to see any woman disrespected, whether they came with her or not. Surely they enjoy looking at your front, but they'll also watch her back. The young, single guys though bring nothing to the buffet (probably a bad analogy) and have nothing to lose. There is a reason Steve has strict limits for them on the Boobs Cruise. He knows if the dynamic is changed to where women feel unsafe and disrespected then the whole vibe of the party changes and it quickly becomes just another booze cruise. Perhaps an age or attendance limit is the key for the resort as well. It might weed out a few decent, under 30, 32, or 35 guys, but it might also deter a few future incidents. It would be interesting to see past statistics on this theory. This idea might be best for a future thread though because it does not solve the most recent incident.

 

From someone familiar with being the accused just because you are big, I can tell you that THAT is what played the major role here. His size. They automatically assume you are the aggressor. I've had to learn to keep my head on a swivel with my wife and steer clear of situations BEFORE they escalate. Hindsight being 20/20, you COULD have gone over and simply separated your wife before she got to the point of telling him to fuck off because he continued. You simply go over and introduce yourself and make a half hearted attempt to make him a friend. Then if he continues, you walk away and get security involved and that way they are now watching closely and typically do their job. I've done this on several occasions with 100% success, even when I ended up dropping a guy for groping my wife because security saw it all happen. They picked him up and hauled him away and apologized to me.
Sorry this happened to you brother, awful experience.

I can not comment on the difficulty in dealing with the resort...seems lousy to me...