We are going back for the 3rd time this year. Have to agree meeting people ahead of time helps. We are there Nov 8-15
Reassurance So my wife and I are seriously considering booking a trip to Temptation November 19-23. We have never been out of the US, but are excited about possibly going to Temptation. Out main hangup quite honestly is the change in our bodies over the last 24 years of marriage and 4 kids, hubby is about 20 pounds overweight, wife has the marks and loose skin on her tummy from having 4 wonderful kids. How concerned should we be? Should we go somewhere else? Do any women wear one piece suits there, or is a loose stretch mark belly ok in a 2 piece. Any insights would be great!
Honestly no one cares at all there. I wouldn't be concerned at all if I was you and your wife. That's like seriously part of the thing there that everyone is just doing whatever they feel like doing. However you are most comfortable is whatever you should do. And then some people push their limits after a few drinks. Lots of the ladies wear 1 piece suits...just the bottom piece. I think anything is fine, just bring options if you are unsure. If someone is judging, then they are most likely hanging out by themselves. Most likely you are going to get 100 comments that say "No one knows you and no one gives a shit". I might as well be the first one to say it.
You will see every kind of body imaginable. Big, small, perky, droopy, fake, real... Bare and covered. There is no "standard". Best part is, (and I couldn't truly understand it until I went) no one cares. It was very strange for me to experience. It's not just that no one says anything (they don't), but you can honestly feel that no one gives one iota what anyone else looks like. It's a truly amazing feeling. It's the most amazing experience. You can be your honest self, with no fear of judgement. No sideways glances or nasty looks. Everyone there treats a size 24 and a size 4 the same. You feel accepted & good in your own skin, what ever condition your in. I used to be stick thin, and I've gained 50 lbs in the last couple years, so when I went I was very self conscious. I brought (and planned on only wearing) a one-piece. However, I did what everyone on here said & also brought a suit I'd never consider wearing in public. I took one walk around the sexy pool, and I only ever wore that sexy bikini. And never once did I feel bad about how I looked. I wish the "real world" would take the mind set of TTR & just love people for who they are, not what they look like. So do yourself a favor... don't waste another second worrying about it. You are your own worst critic. Go, have a blast... Don't give it another thought. Once you get there, you will see what I mean.
Pretty much every mom and dad in the place is exactly like you...and normally 75% of the place is over 30. Picture walking in to a three star property...decorated a bit like a bad porn movie. You get to your room...also decorated in red and white. You finally close the door and see the light by the bed marked "sexy light"...you click it on and voila...a red apple above your bed goes on...and you start to laugh. You turn on the TV and hit channel 12...24 hour pornos and you wonder just what you got yourself into. When you finally get to the pool...you take a look around and it looks like summer camp for the middle aged...every size under the sun (don't get me wrong...there are always a ken and Barbie somewhere and that's ok too). Once you bump into some folks that you start to chat with...you are off to the races and what happens this week...will be determined by what you choose to do...or get sucked into doing by the folks you meet...or what you simply sit back and watch happen. ...I can say that you won't find anywhere quite like it ....bottom line... everyone's husband is at least 20 lbs heavy...and every woman that has ever had kids normally has the marks to prove it! So now you have proven you are human and normal ...join the rest of us and get booking already. (the place is a lot like a nude beach except the lower naughty bits stay covered...after you adjust you don't really noticeall the skin.... you work on getting to know the folks inside it)
A man of many words. Those words are right on the money. Nobody knows you here and nobody gives a Sh&*....no joke. There are soooooo many types of bodies at TTR. I'll bet that even the most "fit" people think they have some flaws. Nobody ever thinks they are perfect. The difference at TTR is that nobody is there to JUDGE you. Everyone is there to just have fun and do all the crazy stuff that they can't do at home because we all know that the next day....hmmmm...someone is always there to remind you and JUDGE you about your behavior. (SO HATE THAT) Here at TTR, everyone is on spring break. So go ahead book your trip. Read plenty of the threads in this forum because they are the true thoughts of people from all walks of life; all around the world. One last note of advice....Prepare your liver!
We lost track of the visits too. This is either number 3 or 4. Ah that first trip--nervous, unsure, but lured by the guarantee of no kids. Since that first trip, we keep going back twice a year. We'll be in Nov 7-17. We haven't left the resort for anything except the airport (and the pharmacy) yet. After you check in at the desk and get your wristband, you are all set. You will be directed to a hostess at booth for "the information." This is the pre-sales meeting. The map, dinner times, and basic directions might be useful. If you want to avoid the timeshare sales pitch which will eat up a morning, just listen to info and decline appointments at the booths, and don't give them a deposit. They are part of the sales team and can be just as pushy as the tour giving closers. (Ask members about experiences, and if want to know more the sales people will be happy to show you around and demonstrate their ability to sell.) If you're not in too early, The staff will carry your bags and guide you to your room. Either way, wander around a bit to get the layout of the place before things get too hazy. The place isn't that big, but we've still managed to get lost between the sexy pool and Paty O's. :ernaehrung005: You can choose to sit quietly and few people will bother you, be outgoing and meet some other quiet people, or wander into the big groups. Most people are very friendly, and if find some that aren't, you can avoid them. Our last trip was mostly just us time, this time probably not so much.
