For all you Temptation repeat visitors let me warn you I am going to ask the "I'm nervous" questions, the "I'm reserved" and "not sure" questions. So if you feel like this :banghead: please try to be patient and know I really appreciate all your answers. I have read several reviews, probably hundreds of reviews, on several different topics. I know that most of my questions can probably be answered by searching for several more hours. I hope this is will be more effective and maybe help someone else as well. So sorry in advance for anything repeated. We are not going to do the booze/Boobs Cruise. So please don't suggest that. Nothing against it at all just not going to do it this trip. Plus my husband gets crazy sea sick. What are the must do's other then this? Most likely we will only be there Friday and Saturday night so how can we fully enjoy the resort for 2 nights? Please don't respond by saying stay longer. Or this will be me. :banghead: We want to split our time with another resort. You might be able to convince us to stay one extra night though. :wink3: I just don't want to read about something later, or worse get there and find something I didn't know about and wish I had known. This is for those who have traveled in September, our trip is planned for late September and I know this is low season but can I expect to see women topless all day, all over? Also, are the waters swimable? This is, of course, if I can peel myself out of bed from the previous nights festivities. This sounds like a giant party all the time. I've been to good and bad parties. What am I going to run into here? Are there going to be people controlling themselves or is it just a drunk fest, vomit in the pool, can't keep your hands off of someone elses wife kind of thing? To what extent should I expect the men's behavior to be towards other women, whether they are single men or men who are there with their wife or significant other? Every girl loves to be flattered but I'm not looking to do any "swinging" of any sort. What I would like is to enjoy a good clean party atmosphere, meet some new people and have a good time. My idea of a good time does not include hooking up with anyone other then my husband. If I want to take my top off, I'd like to do that on my own, not because someone is trying to persuade me to do so. We are pretty reserved people, however, we are becoming more adventurous and would like to see what the resort has to offer. I just want to know point blank what to expect. A lot of reviews try to skate around what to expect. I don't want any surprises. This is not to say that I wont be right along with the "crazies" when I get there. But if I chose not to I'd like to know what I'm getting into. Sorry for the lengthy thread. And thanks for your help in advance!
GOV resort may be more suited for you. Temptation is not for the faint hearted. But you are only going for 2 days, dress for the theme nights, make friends in the sexy pool, play the games and have fun
Thursday & Friday nights are known to be the best nights at the resort. Thursday is lingerie night & Friday is White night. September weather - it may rain, it may rain a lot - it is Hurricane season after all. Late Sept & Early Oct is a great time to be there, resort is not packed so its quite a bit more relaxing and not as hectic. Not as many repeaters so the cliques are toned way down. Party vibe is there but not as strong. 60% of women will have their tops off, more in the sexy pool area than the quiet areas like the Beach & quiet pool area. Will you run into a few pushy asshole people - YES! Sorry, but its true, not everyone is as respectful as the majority of people, but you run into assholes at the grocery store or your corner bar. Just be aware of your circumstances and use the word NO. Seen a few husbands rip their wives tops off in good fun, but never seen anyone that pushy to demand yours come off. Yes, there are some pushy Swingers that come to the resort - we've met them and a polite NO was not good enough and the girls we were with with were creeped out but that is rare. Worst case scenario, you see this once on your trip. Yes, you will see a few people who overdo it in the pool with alcohol and become drunken messes of themselves - never seen anyone puke in the pool though. Same goes for Paty'Os where the outdoor night party is held. Once again, you will see a few instances of this but it's not the norm and these folks are outliers. Swimming - hell yes, we swim everyday out to the buoys and back. We take the double kayaks out for a paddle too & sometimes the paddleboards. The Hobie cats are fun too if you appreciate sailing and getting a good distance away from the resort. Resort is not that crazy or people just live really sheltered lives.............. Have fun and enjoy your 2-3 nights there!
IDareU, thanks for your honesty in answering my questions. Edward-Alli, I'll check into that. fied1k I have no idea what you dislike? So why bother to post something at all? And GandC I have no idea what "yes and no" means in relation to the questions. I am really just looking for people to give honest opinions. Saying things like "is there a dislike" button makes me worry about the few a-holes that stay there as described in IDareU's very informative post.
We figure that if people are coming to a resort like this, then we've got the green light. You will get groped, your top will get ripped off and yes, everyone will be puking in the pool. Also, just so you're aware, if we get eye contact.... THEN THIS IS HAPPENING!!!
Most of us have been nervous before our first trips and had a lot of the same questions, but I have to say most come across as "excited and trying to decide how far I'll go nervous," where the tone of your post is coming across more as "arms across my chest, made up my mind already nervous." I hope that isn't really the case, but the key to a good time at Temptation is to be and let be. Some people will be drunker than you'd like. Some people will be more sexually open than you. Some women you don't want to see without "beer goggles" are going to be next to naked. Can you respect the fact they paid just as much for their vacation as you did and have every right to enjoy it to the full extent of what "fun vacation" means to them? Can you go about your business without judging what others are doing? That means not only refraining from comment, but avoiding giving condescending looks--and letting a snarky tone creep into your voice. Most importantly, if your husband is looking at half naked women, how are you going to react? If you really want to open up your boundaries, you have to accept that they only expand when they're pushed. If you are going to feel threatened if others don't conform to your ideas of acceptable physical attractiveness and public behavior, Temptation is not the right choice. If you decide against TTR, the Golden Parnassus or the Hard Rock would be good choices--party atmospheres, but more traditional.
summerbum, there is a lot of truth in what you are saying! As far as letting people do their thing and not judging. I really just want a good idea of what it is going to be like. I guess just total honesty about it. I've read way too many reviews that you can read between the lines but no one will come out and say what's really up. So far several have on this thread and that's what I'm looking for. If I choose to go to the resort knowing what to expect then how could I judge others for acting a certain way when I knew that's what it would be like? I wouldn't! That's why I am asking what to really expect. I appreciate your post and your suggestions!
