I think the true issue is some people are afraid of being SWAYED, but that will only happen if it is allowed. Some good friends of ours were swayed before their TTR trip was over last year. Now they travel to see this other couple and they have made great friends. They will be headed to TTR in a couple of weeks together (all 4 of them). I will say again, you can only be swayed if you allow it to happen. You will find all kinds at TTR. You just have to be open minded to go to TTR.
It all boils down to diversity and if your mind is open to being respectful to others. All of you please forgive the following language in the statement coming as I am NOT and NEVER will be a bigot, racist, sexist or just a plain asshole. If you read trip reports and found out there were African descendants at TTR would you say "I am not sure if the resort is right for us. We have read reports that there are blacks there and they try talk in ebonics to people and that they wear their shorts lower than we generally do. They are very loud and pretty boisterous. We just don't want to have that influence pushed upon us."? Or if you heard that there were some gay people around at the resort would you say that "we read trip reports saying that there were some homo at the resort that like to frolic around and rub all up on you trying to convince you to be gay"? Would that make you turn gay? Would that make you hate all "blacks" or be leery of any "black" that portrayed this kind of personality? some do and some don't... it is all about the person and you can't hold all individuals to a stereotype of a life choice. The above traits can be held by anyone of any color same as the swingers and the stereotyping that is sent their way. Some are obnoxious and others(most) are not. Don't judge someone by their first words or actions, find out about that person. Maybe they do approach you right out of the gate. If that is something you are not used to, most peoples reaction is to instantly "defend" themselves. Just relax, it is not like you are going to be raped. They probably have had too much to drink, like everyone else, have just lost a bit of inhibitions and consider you very attractive. All you have to do is say no thanks and they will still find you attractive but you now have a very good friend for the remainder of the trip that you know will respect your boundaries. We have opened our minds to all sorts of other things around the world when it comes to diversity, you don't have to become what you see just need to accept it. Remember "culture is the way humans adapt to their environment"... if you don't like the culture then it is on you to move. You don't have to become what your surrounding are, you just need to adapt. That is how you live a normal life in my mind.
Sorry Sweetchild not at all am I trying to put a label on "swinging." People on here are right..some reviews make TTR out to be a swinging/orgy of a place. Not knowing what at all to expect my question was just to ask would we look like prudes or not fit in if we aren't into that sort of lifestyle! I'm definitely not a judge mental person, and what people do in their lives are totally none of my business. My husband and I are gong on vacation to let loose, party, and make some wonderful memories! Didn't mean for the question to offend anybody!!
I don't think anyone was offended, I just think this question gets asked a lot. You will find exactly what you are looking for and have a great time!
No offense taken! :wink3: Sorry if my last statement came off as directed towards you in any way. I am just curious though that if you have no judgements against swingers(or anyone, unless they are just an asshat by nature), why would you be curious if you would "fit in". Would it stand to reason that if someone had no judgements, they could go anywhere and be comfortable? I completely understand where you are coming from and could answer my own question here but my wife and I have dabbled in the lifestyle here and there. I have read the reports about places like Hedo and Desire but do not think it would be the place for us. So we are about as non judgemental as they come but also have found(think) that neither of those places would be for us. It however is not the people that we would be "affraid" of, it is more or less the environment and I think that is what your concern is here at TTR if I am understanding correctly. "Is TTR the "swinging" place like hedo or is it seriously just that big of a party with swinger that is on the cusp of naughtiness?" I just have a hard time understanding why people in general start putting labels on others like they have the plauge or something. I would hope to think that we have come further than that as societies.
Book the trip you'll love it! our first trip back in Sept we had the same thoughts as you, my advise to you is not to sweat the little things,you will meet people who can party thier backsides off, you will meet people who just kick back and enjoy whats going on around them,and of course you will meet those people who swing. i can also tell you this from our experience,you will become addicted to this place. if you go with an open mind you will have the time of your life with the new friends that you will make. if any thing should scare you off from going to TTR it shouldn't be the bad trip reports about swingers. now those trip reports about becoming addicted to this place, and we cant wait to get back to this place,and all we think about is this place,now these reports should give you pause.
'But, the new folks are always scared of someone pushing up on them and saying something/doing something like, "Hi, how are you, I'm Mike, this is Devin. She's into strap-ons and I love doing people, either gender, I just met in the butt. What's your names?" Seems to put people off.' OMG I spit my coffee out laughing, reading this...!! "i love doing people I just met in the butt"...bahahahahaha now if that's not a good pick up line I dont know what is.
Ha! Gotcha! The old coffee out the nose, maybe?! Jillykin is going to fit right in at the TTR Sexy Pool party atmosphere, no worries there! Don't worry about giving offense, that wasn't the issue. It is "how" the people who've never been (Stacia & I's friends here in Houston, included) tend to generally have that skewed perspective. I'm just wondering how we could go about combating it, at least getting a counter-message out there. 1. Is TTR a place where people run around mostly, and sometimes, hiding or by created "accident," all the way naked? Yes. 2. Is TTR a place where people go, drink perhaps too much for the usual polite company, and get crazy, foolish, and occasionally stupid? yes. 3. Is TTR a place where people go to sort of let their personal boundaries go, or at least fuzz and expand, for expirementation, etc? Yes. 4. Is TTR a place where people in-lifestyle go, to meet new and old friends? Yes. 5. Is TTR a place where people not in-lifestyle go to sort of dabble, maybe? Yes. 6. Is TTR a place where any of the above 5 items are "required?" Not even a little bit. "Just my ten cents, my two cents is free..."
Well said!! And do you think two single guys would look funny there if we both like to party? I was supposed to go with my girlfriend but we seperated last summer!! So i replaced her with my good buddy!! Were going march 26 up to the 2of april!!!
