Oh boy. Unbeknownst to me, my wife (Laurie) decided it would be a good idea to read up on TTR to learn more about it before we go Week 8. We've already booked the hotel and airfare, non-refundable. Naturally, instead of coming to this site, she started reading travel reviews on some other site which were all very negative with people complaining about the abundance of swingers, strippers, and who-knows-what else. They also ripped the place in shreds on everything from food to service to amenities. I understand full well that some review sites just get people who complain, and not those who are happy. But those are the reviews she has read, so that's what I'm dealing with for now. After that she took a visit the hotel website which has some very ridiculous pictures of people in togas, along with a list of the theme nights, most of which do not coincide with the CCC theme nights (Lingerie/Casino being the one major exception). So, she reads all this and is very concerned, we are not swingers, but have no problem with drinking/partying now and then. I have a very good idea of what to expect after frequenting this forum for a few months, but I guess I didn't communicate those things to her very well and now I feel like she's dreading the trip. So I'm posting this thread in the hopes that you guys will reassure her (I'm going to have her read this) that TTR is NOT 99% swingers and those that are there are not "in your face" about it, and that nobody is ever forced to do something they don't want, or ridiculed for not participating in a game, activity, or whatever. We're still coming, cause the trip is paid for, but I'd love for her (and me) to be able to spend the next 43 days getting excited for the trip, instead of dreading it. This trip is to celebrate our 10 year anniversary, and it's supposed to be fun!
Hey Jeff and Laurie - the best thing I can think of to help you both is to post my wife's trip report from our first trip. She was nervous about exactly the same things. And now we'll be seeing y'all on our fourth trip! http://www.cancuncare.com/forum/tem...eport-first-timers-who-just-got-back-ttr.html Trip advisor is full of all kinds of people, but the loudest ones all seem to have sticks up their asses. :aktion052:
It's a beautiful Sunday morning... instead of watching football or doing laundry... relax, make yourselves a couple of drinks and...READ READ READ this forum. I would speculate 90% of the folks here started out the same way and now are in love with this resort. Us included, we are somewhat conservative in everyday life, had the same concerns as you, and know heading in April for our 5th trip in 2 1/2 years! This is the ultimate source for information regarding Temptations.:lurking: I can assure you that you have made one of the best decisions in your life and will be a future repeater. Do you have the basic ingrediants? Fun loving, not judgemental, willing to have the best vacation of your life? Then this is the resort for you. Paul & Lisa
We are repeaters to TTR in 2011 5 weeks, 2 weeks last December and are returning for 2 weeks 8th April to 22nd. There are a lot of repeaters like us and trust me the food at TTR is way better than Sandals resort we have been to. We have stayed in hotels costing double with the food quality not half as good. Yes the games are adult themed but not offensive, yes some people will end up naked but in fun. Every adult only hotel resort has an element of lifestyle. There is always the quiet pool or the beach, the place has tried to give something for everyone without the kids. You will both love it.
Great trip report RnJ! Our first trip was last year and we booked based on the adults only and then read afterward it was a "swinger joint". Made us a bit nervous, but after finding this forum and reading as much as we could, it was lessened. Nothing makes it completely go away until you are there. Each couple has their own reasons for being there and no one is wanting to force anything on anyone else. Everyone is just there to have the best time possible. Best advice I can give is to relax. Be yourselves. And do want you're comfortable doing. That can be leaving your top on... or taking it off (I wasn't sure, but had mine off by Day 2 I think... and off & on after that). Whether it's observing all of the great entertainment... or getting right in and participating. Whether it's hanging in the pool with your spouse... or getting up on the sexy pool swim-up bar for body shots. You'll have a great time... just let yourself
I will try and make this as short and sweet as possible. DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT!! No, really I(Scott) took my wife, Kellie, there last year for our first trip and it was amazing. Just a bit of background on us... I am EXREMELY outgoing and will talk to just about anyone. I like to mingle and get to know people, flirt and touch(if allowed by Kellie) but she is basically my polar opposite. She is more self-conscious, shy and reserve, but also likes to cut loose when given the right occasion(drinking). Last year I planned the entire trip even buying her outfits, bikini's and packing for her. She had no idea about the resort until we were at the airport and had the VERY same feelings as your wife does without reading the trip reports. She heard "topless" and the rest was just static as far as she was concerned. All she said was I guess we will see. She was happy to be on vacation but was very clear about the "idea" of the resort. After being there for 1/2 day her opinion was changed. We were already planning out how to come back every year. We are accustomed to swingers, as having sampled the party lifestyle for a while, but also having done that we can tell you for certain a few well know facts about the resort from someone that has only been there once and is not completely jaded(yet) for our opinion on the resort. -There are swingers there,yes! but unless they are the VERY few that are obnoxious, you will never know who is or who is not unless you get to know them. -There are also rude and obnoxious singles too, but those again are very few and far between and stand out like sore thumbs since they make complete asses of themselves(more so than the completely drunken maniacs like myself, that fall off the wet deck at the sexy pool). -The resort does hold it own themes but the ONLY one that really sticks is the Lingerie night. That is the reason that the CCC members dig and drill up their own as they(we) are the fun bunch that helps bring the party to TTR as much as the activities people do. -If you do not want to participate in a game, theme night, topless activities or anything else, you need not worry. Kellie, as well as several others, did not go topless (with he exception of being on the Boobs Cruise where most did take of their tops but it was optional and some did keep them on but... when in Rome) and were NEVER EVER EVER pressured into doing so except being asked by me once. -Never take anything too seriously! There are people of all ages, races, backgrounds, body types and mental & drinking states that make them just like you, nervous and excited to be on vacation for the first time. We met a VERY good looking woman that came alone to drown her sorrows of her very recent divorce, but was nervous in that she would have to be topless to get attention. Needless to say she did not take off her top and she had 3 guys dancing with her at all times just by talking to them. -The staff and food is not 5*, but you would never know it! If there was a leaf that hit the ground you would never know it. The wait staff were always on time and always VERY VERY polite. Never did we want for anything while we were there except possibly more sleep but hey, we can do that at home. Why waste vacation sleeping? Never the less, relax take deep breaths! the trip reports I read were of the same setting when I decided to book the resort but coming to this site and meeting all of these wonderful CCC members is what will forever be in our memories. You will never regret your decision to go, but open your mind and ease your tensions because it will be so much more of a ride if you do!
Trust us she and you will be fine. Do us all a favour tho,when you do get back find this forum again and write a trip report, so people that feel the same next time can see what your experience was like. We are heading back down for our 6 time in a couple weeks we love the place so much. We call it adult spring break.....so you know you will see Boobs you will see small amounts of nudity in games you will see people dressed in sexy cloths you will see everyone with the biggest smiles you will meet the friendliest people you will make friends for life you will gain wait from the good food you will have the time of your life If all else fails, you can always use the quiet side of the resort too try relax and look forward to having a great holiday cause thats what you will be facing. remeber....you don't have to do anything you guys dont want to do if you feel nervous about anything just say No thanks...and enjoy your trip!!! We may see you some time on your return trips to Temptations in the future!!!
We were in a VERY similar situation as you when we first visited in 2010. I tend to ramble on so sorry if this is a long trip report but it includes tons of detail... http://www.cancuncare.com/forum/temptation-resort-cancun/15339-jen-kyle-trip-report-2-24-3-2-a.html It was honestly the best week of BOTH our lives. Key points... No pressure to do anything you don't want to. This includes games, going topless, etc The food is actually pretty good. Not 5* but not something to worry about. You can always escape to the quiet pool if it is too much for you or your wife. We expected to need to do this some based on some tripadvisor reports but never did. Didn't want to miss the fun. The trip report will give you tons of tips so you maximize your enjoyment and minimize the minor inconveniences you have read about on tripadvisor. Let us know if you have any questions!
Hey Jeff and Laurie - I was the same way as Laurie last year! My husband surprised me with a trip to Temptation. I was reading all the reviews from trip advisor and was getting very nervous after reading all of the reviews and wanted to go somewhere else. The reason he purchased the trip at Temptation was from the advice of my niece who went for her Honeymoon 3 years ago. She told my husband that this would be the place for us - that we would love it! She was soooo right!!! We went for the 1st time in April last year, been to Cancun a few other times, at different resorts. We are coming back to TTR for our 2nd trip 3/28-4/1/13! All of the responses that you have so far to your post are correct!!!! :icon_smile:
our first trip to TTR was back in September 12, here is our take on ttr.1 the resort is a little out dated but is well maintained,the grounds are spotless the rooms are kept clean, the staff is very friendly.2 the food is not going to win any major awards but it is tasty and will keep you nourished so you can keep your partying going, we liked the Italian restaurant.3 topless/nakedness yes you will see both at ttr the games at the sexy pool are fun to watch, there was never any pressure to participate in them. my wife being of the conservative type said she would never go topless, it took less than 3 hours she felt that comfortable.4.as for lifestylers being there the answer is yes,if thats what your looking to find you can find it, its not flaunted around. 5.as for being worried that you will be pressured into doing something that you do not want to do, or being shunned because you refuse to do it,dont be,the people at ttr are not that shallow minded and are some of the most fun loving, carefree partying people you will ever meet. just go with an open mind and dont sweat the little things and i can guarantee you'll be talking about the great time that you had, the new friends you have met and you will start planning your next trip back. our next trip back to ttr will be with the April addicts 4/13-20/13 and than a reunion with the labor day crew 9/1-8/13 this place is that much fun!
