OK....my 2 cents...when I met Roz, I was a single dad living with my mother(financial & child care reasons)...anyway, my mother never liked Roz from the get-go....actually called her a 'bimbo' before she even met her !!! She was adamant about me not marrying her, when I told her !! I told my mother that I loved her, and respect her opinion, but it won't change my mind, and whether she liked it or not, I was marrying her. (side note: my grandmother told me to do what my heart tells me to do....not her daughter !! LOL) My point is that you two are committed to EACH OTHER......and you will be (hopefully) spending the rest of your lives with EACH OTHER....if you want to include your families, and they you, then there has to be an understanding that you won't try control their lives nor, should they try to control yours !! That being said....good luck with your dilemma, and for what it's worth...Roz & I just celebrated our 20th anniversary in March !! :daveandmo:
This topic shows that we are not a bunch of dumbass drunks. Actually, we probably still are but with moments of lucidity.
We are experiencing something similar. Dad found out the wife wears WW bikinis and got to internet stalking. I suspect he is on this board. My position is simple. None of it is any of his business and searching for pics of the little lady on WW website is way over the line. This came out on Easter, I walked out immediately and took the wife. We have not spoken since, I do not know if we ever will. To put this in perspective it is normal to speak with him several times per day.
I have one short reply....................."They love me for who I am or they don't need to love me at all!"
I am sorry you are going through this. It is a very difficult situation. Since you have been "uninvited" to dinner, it appears that they have made the decision for you. So go and plan your vacation, and what will be, will be. You are both adults and can do as you please. I mean it's not like you are going to Mexico to murder someone....there are a lot worse things you could do than go to a "swingers" resort. Put it all in perspective....is any of this going to matter in 5 years? Is your family still going to be mad in 5 years? These are the things only you guys can answer, as you know your family. Best of luck in your decision, what ever that may be. But remember (and I always tell my kids this)--live with the decision you make. Sending hugs your way :daisy:
Completely agree with Heidiho on this one--your family has done you a favor and made part of the decision for you. Why not make tonight a practice run for what Sunday nights would be like if they really disowned you? Make it a nice night for the two of you--try a new recipe or restaurant. Use the time as a little breathing space away from the family. In my opinion, this has put them in a whole new category of vindictiveness: they're now punishing you just for something you've thought about, not something you've even done! Please consider very carefully anything you share with any of them in the future, okay? Sending hugs and kind thoughts, Laura
Book YOUR trip, live YOUR life, because as we all know; life is too short for silly untimatums like these. Do what makes you happy beacuse at the end of the day, your the only one you have to answer to! Best of luck to you both!!!
Some very good and eloquent advice sent your way from the great people here! Now my unpolished advice: f 'em! Be mad at them. Turn the tables on them. They are the ones that have the power because you are letting them. Be the aggressor, let them know that because of their behavior you wont be attending Sunday dinner... etc. Just my 2 cents.
