Well...first off "Y'All"? from Toronto? lol (just teasing) Next...where you meet women can make a difference. Most important, approach a conversation feeling "comfortable in your skin" and with a genuine, sincere interest in the person you are meeting. In a social setting I often ask permission to have a conversation. "Hi, can I chat with you for a bit?". That gives the other person an opportunity for an out right away (well I'm just waiting for friends/boyfriend to show up)or an agreement to spend at least a short time with you. Then: No ulterior motives like getting laid, finding the love of your life, etc. No preconceptions that the conversation will be a flop just like the others and women all f'd up. No lying, bragging, dropping names, mentioning your Porsche parked outside, how you pay more tax than most people make or how much you can bench press. Absolutely no canned pick up lines or phoney compliments. You know what I hear all the time, coast to coast? Are all the good men taken? The message behind that is that they are finding most men to be jerks. So if you aren't a jerk you are a rare commodity. You have no control over the other person, what their motives are, but you may be able to read it before initiating a conversation. "Gold diggers", etc. have signs that can be read. Just be real and let yourself enjoy meeting and getting to know other members of the human race that are sharing this journey together. I knew a guy who liked to say that a stranger is just a friend I haven't met yet. That sums it up. That's my advice. Good luck!
You think Temptations is liberal... you should try some parties in Europe and the UK!..................... ;-)
Brewster is giving good advice! Something else to consider: people who I know casually consider me pretty conservative. My husband didn't want to date me at first because he thought I'd be too stuffy and boring. But once I get to know and trust people...look out. My guess is that some of these women would be fun and sexy--if they know and trust you well enough. And that takes time. I think a lot of the women you see on here are letting loose because we have partners who, over time, have coaxed the wild sides out of us. Give the girls who seem a little stiff a chance.
"I've never ever noticed any kind of an interest from ladies here in Canada." Maybe your just looking at or for the wrong ladies. Have you been to Temptations? or did I miss somthing. I think about 98% of women and doesn't matter where their from has a wild side, and Temptations is a great place to let loose and have fun and for many of us is a real confidence booster. Nobody judges you, at home thats a different story. Many of us once we get home settle back into our routines, and follow what many of us think is what society expects of us. But have to say after a few trips to Temptations my real life has gotten even better.
Thanks for your thoughts, everyone! I'll try to reply to every message here. 2 Sultryfox- I'm not initially looking for a "date" to take with me to TTR. I don't want a one time fling, but wants instead something in terms of an ongoing relationship or whatever you'd like to call it. 2 Brewster-Thanks a lot! Good points! I feel VERY comfortable in my skin, been working with people for a loooooong time. Trust me-I DO KNOW how to treat a lady, but I'm used to a different response from a lady to a normal and polite approach. I'm from Europe originally and know what I'm talking about, I can compare. I want to see at least SOME kind of an interest from a lady here in Canada... A little flirting, emotions, eye contact can go a long way, but almost never heard of in Toronto and area. Believe me, it is very hard to talk to an Ice Queen. 2 Hotasscouple81- TTR is NOT liberal by any means. It's just a shadow of what is possible in Europe. We are talking 2 different universes here. 2 Summerbum- Well, I think I know a part of my problem... I do NOT want to wait for ages until the "wild side" of a lady comes out... Not used to waiting fo ages and will never get used to.... 2 Jeff&Deb-No, I haven't been to Temptations. I do not need a special place to show my wild side or simply be myself. I do not have several masks in my life, one for Canada, one for Mexico and one for Germany or Holland.
Summerbum said it better than I did, but said basically the same thing I was trying to say. You are probably going to have to get to know a woman very well, and pretty much be married or engaged a long time in order for her to feel comfortable going to TTR with you, and feel like she has the freedom to show her wild side without harsh judgment from you. You can say you won't be judgmental until you are blue in the face, but most women will not fully "relax" in that way with someone they are serious about until there is relationship security, like marriage or long term engagement.
I definitely do NOT mind an engagement, marriage or a long term commitment! Never been an issue for me!
I am hardly in my shell when I come back. Most of my friends know about cancun. I am also not much different every weekend as the husband and I go out dancing and partying every weekend.I dress in sexy micro dresses most weekends. I think you just need to get Alberta bound.
