...and I certainly did not mean Mindi has asked for FF ONLY...we have seen it however and it is VERY awkward when another female of a couple asks for FF or MFF play...leaving HER other half to be the perv in the corner...
rdubnpk Is it true or not, though, that if you meet another couple who isn't in to the lifestyle, it immediately dampens the relationship to the point where further interaction is discouraged?? I feel that way.
wow.. lol - didnt mean to start something! first let me say i dont want to offend any of the couples, especially the male half, that are into this. in no way was it meant to be against you, just an honest question. second, like as stated by others, she prefers just one guy, and it has nothing to do with me at all. she is bi and has been with women before, we have even talked about my participation in the future, but she has no interest in more "dick" - lol - let alone enough for mine. HA! just joking. lastly, i agree its a lifestyle choice built on communication and trust, every couple is different, yada yada yada, we were just wondering if we would be considered swingers, poly or anything.. not that labels matter, just making conversation.. and apparently a huge one at that! lol
No...You didnt offend us anyway. We were simply offering experience and advise we have seen and heard...we communicate EVERYTHING. That is why we have the marriage and friendship we have.
I (les) am more than happy to see Lynfa playing with just another F of a couple as this is how we originally started out. That said we would never ask a F of a couple to play while her husband watches because that would be very disrespectful to him and her. We come as a couple and play as a couple because even if it's just the F's play the M's can still play with thier own partners. If you haven't got enough respect for the other couple then you don't deserve to play with them xxx
Once again I think you people have proven that lifestyle people are some of the most respectful people on the planet. *L* Everyone with a different opinion on how they like things and no one telling the other that they're wrong. One more reason why I love this board....... 90% of people are respectful of others. :beer4:
Jess and I are in the same boat. We have to have a natural attraction to the other couple. Respect is the big thing for us. It is right up there with physical attraction. We have not met a rude, loud, obnoxious, or any other foul means of attitude from anyone in the lifestyle. We are not an "easy lay" per say. This is an awesome thread. Monique, how was your trip in september? we missed you by a day.
I thoroughly enjoy this forum and the opportunity it affords in becoming acquianted with the hopes of one day partying with some (if not all) that we meet in here. Yes, "Lifestylers" usually have the sense of respect that's necessary to be involved as a couple. We have always found that the intial "meet-n-greet" is sufficient enough for us in determining if the other couple is on the same page as us. We have ran into those that are a bit more aggressive or one or the other is seeking more. When we've encountered this we simly apply the "No means No" rule.
