Grasshoppers do have nice long legs lol.... That was a great responce though guys, funny and accurate
Wow i missed this one !!! COMMUNICATION !!! Is the key to the success in this one. While you must take baby steps and not jump for the sky on the first try ! We started the same way...slowly and with alot of communication. Also we choose our new friends very carefully. As we need to be 100 % at the same place if swapping. We need to be 100 % BOTH of us comfortable. At 75 - 100 and the other person at 100 % no good, the night is going downhill. We are alll jealous in our own minds , we can't deny that. Just to different degrees. Also this is what makes this exciting and dangerous...we like to live life on the edge. Now that said, the males need to hit it off also. We must bond as i can't see myself letting my wife go with just any guy even if his wife is Bo Derek. So if the guy is a complete idiot or chemistry is not there ...it''s not happening. True story one time a guy goes up to my wife starts hitting on her and he expects me to be comfortable with all this going on....don't think so...talk to me first and then i'll let you know if you're good enough for her. End of the story he never had a chance .... But everytime before , during, and after we communicate the likes dislikes etc...so we can better our experiences and continue our growth in this quite invigourating experience. And also we don't swing with everyone we also are soft on occasion. We are also very respective of the people we encounter while all have thier own limits and some limits are a plain no we don't swing. Fine but we can still be friends....haven't met many people who don't have the topic of sex far in thier minds...loll we all love to do it and some love to watch and some love to participate. to each thier own....but boy is life beautiful !!!!
Sharon and I are co-hosts at a rather large swingers club in our area, so we see all types of swingers, and we pay special attention to nervous first-timers, helping them deal with their concerns and expectations. The key to success is, as stated above, a strong relationship based on good, honest communication. When we first started swinging, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to find another couple to play with ... we're much more mellow about it now. That said, we are hoping to make new friends Aug 1 - 4.
Great to hear that so many others are as picky as we are. Couples must be attractive in so many ways - physically, of course, but also their relationship with EACH OTHER must be appealing, their ability to hold an intelligent conversation, be fun and know how to have fun, no pouting or jealousy, proper spelling and grammar, etc etc etc. J/K about that last one. Mostly. LOL Oh, and they must be good kissers, too.
what if she just wants a female for herself or us together and no males. is it still "swinging" if its not a couple on couple swap?
Excellent question, we would also like to know the answer to this... the wife always said one dick is enough!
These days the term "Lifestyle" seems to have replaced "Swinging". Being "in the lifestyle" seems to encompass all forms of sexual relationships outside of the traditional manogamy. Maybe when the wife said "one dick is enough" she was referring to you hogging the remote and not helping with the dishes...lol
Ewwwww... bummer. In my household that would mean a lot of Dancing with the Stars, Canadian Idol, American Idol, Biggest Loser, Bachelor, cake makers, cupcake makers, nasty chefs.... god it goes on and on and on....lol
